Hello, I need some help with the issue of my husbands mother............
My husband was incarcerated for 10 years, during this time his mother visited, sent money, supported, etc. She did everything a loving mother could. His mother is 71 capable of driving, living alone, etc.
My mother-in-law became a widow while my husband was away. When my husband was released from prison his mother purchased a home for them both to live in. Her plan was
for the two of them to live together until her passing, then the house would be his.
Then I entered my husbands life. She told me one day "I didn't plan on David falling in love". (Did she really think she would be the only woman in his life?) We were married three months after meeting. For a year I tried to live with them, and just could not do it. She is a loud speaking person always yelling, has a dog that pees throughout the house, continually comparing me to women in my husbands past. Drama every day about something.
I bought a house we moved out, our plans included checking on her regularly.
His mother ALWAYS needs something, calls with crying episodes, and needs a visit daily. After our visits she calls an hour later saying she misses him. It has gotten to the point my husband now has a "bedroom" there because it's easier that running back and forth all the time, and stays there two/three days then back at our house two/three days. I'm having big trouble being married under the situation.
My husband feels very obligated to do immediately what ever she wants because of how good she was to him during his incarceration. My husband has two brothers within three miles of her home, but only calls my husband when she wants something.
I'm seriously considering divorce because I just cannot handle this woman in my life. I'm 52 and love this man dearly. I was married for 21 years and I never knew love could be this beautiful as it is now with David. I don't want to leave him, and don't want to make David choose between us. He is a wonderful man to his mother and myself.
I understand his mom feels threatened, but she is so manipulative when it comes to David I can't stand it.
Please share your ideas with me as I need an outsiders view on this. David is aware of how I feel (except the divorce thoughts).
What do I do with David?
What do I do with my mother-n-law?
One more thing, my husband gave his mother a diamond ring years ago which she wore. That ring is what I wear as a wedding ring. I originally loved it as kinda a family heirloom. Now I hate wearing the ring. Should I tell my husband I now hate the ring?
My husband was incarcerated for 10 years, during this time his mother visited, sent money, supported, etc. She did everything a loving mother could. His mother is 71 capable of driving, living alone, etc.
My mother-in-law became a widow while my husband was away. When my husband was released from prison his mother purchased a home for them both to live in. Her plan was
for the two of them to live together until her passing, then the house would be his.
Then I entered my husbands life. She told me one day "I didn't plan on David falling in love". (Did she really think she would be the only woman in his life?) We were married three months after meeting. For a year I tried to live with them, and just could not do it. She is a loud speaking person always yelling, has a dog that pees throughout the house, continually comparing me to women in my husbands past. Drama every day about something.
I bought a house we moved out, our plans included checking on her regularly.
His mother ALWAYS needs something, calls with crying episodes, and needs a visit daily. After our visits she calls an hour later saying she misses him. It has gotten to the point my husband now has a "bedroom" there because it's easier that running back and forth all the time, and stays there two/three days then back at our house two/three days. I'm having big trouble being married under the situation.
My husband feels very obligated to do immediately what ever she wants because of how good she was to him during his incarceration. My husband has two brothers within three miles of her home, but only calls my husband when she wants something.
I'm seriously considering divorce because I just cannot handle this woman in my life. I'm 52 and love this man dearly. I was married for 21 years and I never knew love could be this beautiful as it is now with David. I don't want to leave him, and don't want to make David choose between us. He is a wonderful man to his mother and myself.
I understand his mom feels threatened, but she is so manipulative when it comes to David I can't stand it.
Please share your ideas with me as I need an outsiders view on this. David is aware of how I feel (except the divorce thoughts).
What do I do with David?
What do I do with my mother-n-law?
One more thing, my husband gave his mother a diamond ring years ago which she wore. That ring is what I wear as a wedding ring. I originally loved it as kinda a family heirloom. Now I hate wearing the ring. Should I tell my husband I now hate the ring?