sjpobox

Hello,
set the stage: I am 32 yr old male, 3 kids 14 mo, 6, 13, been married for 10 yrs. My wife gained alot of weight 245 and was really depressed. She recently lost 40 lbs, and is very beautiful, but was very self consious about herself.

the trouble: we recently went to a concert and tailgated, had alot of alcohol, a stranger with beads comes up while im not present and ask to see her boobs, and she does. I caught the tail end of it and flipped out on her. Out of the 10 yrs I have known her, nothing like this has happened. Considering all the weight she has lost I know it made her feel good that people are interested in her. She tells me that I am the only one she wants to be with and has never wanted to cheat on me.

Should I be concerned or am I way out of line and if so how do I deal with her feeling sexy again? We have talked about it and she says it was a spur of the moment thing and she feels guilty.

any help would be appreciated on this matter.. I really do not want to talk to my friends about this since it is private.

mikey11

as a guy i am trying to put myself in your position....one part of me says i would be upset....the other part of me says if it was in good fun i would not be upset, as long as nobody was groping her or feeling her boobs....but seeing as you were not there when it happened i would consider it wrong....

sjpobox

She was haveing fun with her friends.. no groping or feeling them up.. I was just caught off guard and would like a females opinion as well if I over reacted or should I be worried behavior will escalate to cheating?

mikey11

i think you are over-reacting if she was just flashing for a few seconds....no harm in that in my opinion and i would not be upset if my girlfriend did that....but thats just my opinion....