I'd love to hear from anyone who has experience with an open marriage. Situation as follows - solid 15+ year marriage with kids, financially stable, no infidelity or major relationship issues or complaints but her attraction has been steadily fading over the past year. Might just be going through a phase but she's sending me vibes that she's less interested than ever in being intimate or sexual - understandable after long time together and lucky I suppose to have taken this long for this moment to arise.
We still get along well outside the bedroom and have a very good life together. I'm very involved with my kids and don't want to let sex problems break apart a great family dynamic. But at same time I'm still very into her and not wild about the prospects of prolonged downward spiral in the sex & intimacy department. I worry that our connection will eventually deteriorate to nothing more than good friends living under the same roof raising kids together which is not at all what fuels me.
Much to my surprise she has recently suggested the possibility of opening things up to take some of the pressure off if one of us felt the need. We're pretty progressive but I never imagined she was thinking about something like this for us. My antenna is up - for years she would have cut my balls off at the hint of me having an affair and now she's giving me a pass to go roam. I know many guys who would kill for this freedom and maybe someday I'll get there but right now my first choice would be to do the work to get the love and passion flowing again. Am I crazy to think this way? I'm also not naive and recognize that she wouldn't be suggesting this just to get me off her back - as good a woman as she is there's gotta be something in it for her too ...
We still get along well outside the bedroom and have a very good life together. I'm very involved with my kids and don't want to let sex problems break apart a great family dynamic. But at same time I'm still very into her and not wild about the prospects of prolonged downward spiral in the sex & intimacy department. I worry that our connection will eventually deteriorate to nothing more than good friends living under the same roof raising kids together which is not at all what fuels me.
Much to my surprise she has recently suggested the possibility of opening things up to take some of the pressure off if one of us felt the need. We're pretty progressive but I never imagined she was thinking about something like this for us. My antenna is up - for years she would have cut my balls off at the hint of me having an affair and now she's giving me a pass to go roam. I know many guys who would kill for this freedom and maybe someday I'll get there but right now my first choice would be to do the work to get the love and passion flowing again. Am I crazy to think this way? I'm also not naive and recognize that she wouldn't be suggesting this just to get me off her back - as good a woman as she is there's gotta be something in it for her too ...