General Relationship DiscussionAlthough anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.
If you have a Myspace account or FB account, or any other social networking site, do you have your own page or do you share one with your spouse?
If you do not have separate ones and you have one together, what is your reason behind it?
I'm friends with a married couple I went to school with. Any social networking sites they belong to, they both have one page they share between them. They don't have their own individual anything. I asked my friend out of curiosity why, she replied with there was no reason to have individual anything. To each their own, I'm not knocking it, but was just wondering why if you had a joint one with your spouse.
there was a whole radio program devoted to the topic of how those social network sites have been a big problem to relationships, and then, the whole issue of..if you have seperate ones, should you have each others password, etc. I think for some couples they would just rather avoid that and so they share a page
H and I have separate FB accounts. He hasn't checked his in over year, though
I use mine to keep up with friends who have moved out of state/town. It's nice to be able to communicate with them easily and share photos of our kids.
Accountability has just never been an issue for us, we've never seen the need for separate accounts.
H and I have separate accounts. We play games on Facebook together so we know each others passwords. He gives me his password to everything. We have nothing to hide but I do like having my own account.
A co worker of mine ran around on his wife a few years back. They both agreed they wanted to work things out. One of the things they did and the counselor pushed this as well, was for his wife's own peace of mind and to show that he was sincere in working on things and had nothing to hide, they had joint accounts for FB and other things as well. They even had a joint email account. Basically they had joint everything, she had all passwords to everything etc.
IMO, people should be able to be individuals. Not all things really need to be joint.However, if something like an affair has occurred I can see why that accountability needs to be in tact. if the spouse that cheated wants to work on things and truly isn't in an affair anymore then if he asked to do this, they shouldn't have an issue with it.
I have a family friend who shares a FB account for religious reasons. Their Church recognized that social networking was causing unnecessary strains on relationships and counseled everyone to not put themselves in toxic/risky situations. Posted via Mobile Device
Everything between my husband and me is transparent, it provides trust and security.
He can access to all of my internet accounts, email, face book, TAM, anything you name. He knows the password and he can pretend to be me at any time.
I can access to all of his accounts if I want to. I know his password.
It reminds us that we can't do anything secretly. It helps us in self-control area.
We don't check on each other. I seldom use his email account or access to anything of his, he seldom checks on me.
Our finance is joined together, too.
I think trust and security are very important to a marriage, if everything is transparent, it provides the utmost trust and security. Intimacy builds up this way!
Everything between my husband and me is transparent, it provides trust and security.
He can access to all of my internet accounts, email, face book, TAM, anything you name. He knows the password and he can pretend to be me at any time.
I can access to all of his accounts if I want to. I know his password.
It reminds us that we can't do anything secretly. It helps us in self-control area.
We don't check on each other. I seldom use his email account or access to anything of his, he seldom checks on me.
Our finance is joined together, too.
I think trust and security are very important to a marriage, if everything is transparent, it provides the utmost trust and security. Intimacy builds up this way!
We believe after we get married, there is no "his" or " hers", there is "ours".
A lot of people may disagree, but we don't feel that we need that privacy. I think a couple shouldn't build up walls between each other, they should tear down the walls between them.
I rarely go on it but I have my own page. You couldn't get my husband on FB unless you paid him to do it. He hates FB.
I'm all about trust, openness and all that but I also like some things to be private. So if I'm chatting with my girlfriends on FB I'm not sure I really want him to see all that. No I'm not saying anything bad about him it's just big brotherish to me. I don't want to be "monitored".
We've also been married almost 20 years and have no trust issues.
H and I have seperate accounts and I HATE it. Yes there are trust issues because I have dealt with him and other women having inapproriate conversations, text, pics, ect. I am a firm believer in where there's a will, there's a way and that people who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.
I am slowly becoming a person who hate's technology in general because of the problems my marriage has suffered due to it, but i understand it's not the iphone, fb, or computer, it's the person behind it.
I vote for share!
I am forever frustrating my husband by accidentally making my dorky comments while he is still signed on. We have different accounts but the same computers. We spend most of our time responding to each other or our common friends.
I have facebook and my wife does not. She hates it. However I she knows my pass and can log into it whenever she wants (not that she ever wants to). Facebook (and all online social networking) is dangerous to relationships. It is far better to be open about it. If you have nothing to hide there should be no problem sharing it.
Shared page, nothing individual? 
