i wrote out a long explanation for this but then realized people may not want to read that much so i'll just keep it simple and to the point... is there ever a reason or circumstance or what have you, where not telling family about a divorce until AFTER it is said and done is the better option? Basically saying to them this is what i did and this is why, it is done. Deal with it... not in a mean way, but more in a there is no need for preventative talk. Because it's already occurred. Whether it'd be for emotional reasons (like with me) or other reasons... is it ever better to withhold such information until after the divorce is either final or filed/far along?