I have been with her for a year; I'm 23, she's 28 with a 7-year-old daughter. I love her very much and we have even talked about marriage, though we agreed it's a way's off.
So last night she got very drunk and insisted that we go out with her sister so they could drink more. At one point she started babbling about how she was not a good person and when I asked why, she told me that about six years ago she had sex with her friend's husband. I asked how many times and she said "five?". (She later tried to say it was only once, and when I asked her why she told me five the first time, she said "I was being facetious.") I asked if the friend ever found out, she said no. Needless to say I was taken aback (horrified, really) because I've been cheated on before and I have trust issues as is. Seeing that I was upset, she started getting annoyed that I wasn't taking it well; she seemed to think she deserved credit for telling me and that I should trust her more for it. She ended up dropping me off at my car and then going off with her sister to keep drinking.
I guess she was honest with me, but I don't think she would have told me that if she hadn't been drunk. Also, while it was six years ago, it still speaks leagues about her character. Also, this was her friend! How could she stab her in the back like that, and more than once, without ever confessing or trying to make it right?
I don't know what to do. I worry that this will always be in the back of my mind in the future, and it's made me lose a lot of respect for her in general. Should I cut her loose or try to work through it?
So last night she got very drunk and insisted that we go out with her sister so they could drink more. At one point she started babbling about how she was not a good person and when I asked why, she told me that about six years ago she had sex with her friend's husband. I asked how many times and she said "five?". (She later tried to say it was only once, and when I asked her why she told me five the first time, she said "I was being facetious.") I asked if the friend ever found out, she said no. Needless to say I was taken aback (horrified, really) because I've been cheated on before and I have trust issues as is. Seeing that I was upset, she started getting annoyed that I wasn't taking it well; she seemed to think she deserved credit for telling me and that I should trust her more for it. She ended up dropping me off at my car and then going off with her sister to keep drinking.
I guess she was honest with me, but I don't think she would have told me that if she hadn't been drunk. Also, while it was six years ago, it still speaks leagues about her character. Also, this was her friend! How could she stab her in the back like that, and more than once, without ever confessing or trying to make it right?
I don't know what to do. I worry that this will always be in the back of my mind in the future, and it's made me lose a lot of respect for her in general. Should I cut her loose or try to work through it?