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Girls Opinion: Ex Likes my Photos

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I was dating a girl about a year ago. A short but intense relationship that ended abruptly and without closure. Just kind of faded away as it was long distance and she was leaving soon for a 1 year job overseas.

For the past year I've been doing my own thing, dating, and moving on with my life although she's always been in the back of my mind since I've never experienced a connection like that before. I was trying to forget her and just move on when kind of out of the blue she started liking some of my Facebook posts.

She liked a couple of quotes I posted a couple months ago. Then I recently changed my profile picture and she liked it along with one of my comments on the photo. I'm trying not to read too much into it but she's got me thinking about her again. I've dated a lot since her and haven't found a connection like that so I'd still be interested in grabbing a coffee with her and seeing if the spark was still there but also don't want to go chasing wild geese.

Girls, would you like an ex boyfriend's FB photo sjust for the sake of liking it, or would you be trying to spark something? I know, personally, that I probably wouldn't bother liking an exes photo unless I was at least somewhat interested. I may be wrong, but tor some reason, I feel like she's trying to spark some conversation as I don't think she's the type to just text or call me out of the blue...I feel like I would have to initiate.

Am I crazy for thinking this!?

Thanks all!
 
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But don't give her too many chances either....... adn don't let her get in the way of anyone else you might want to date.

I figured out that my future husband was still seeing his special friend because everytime he went to see a concert he would mention it on FB and everytime he went without me she would like it.

I'm sure if he had mention it to her, she would defended her right to like his posts because they were just friends. On one occasion he metnioned 4 concerts in one entry, one of which I went with him. she liked that post.

So, he did go to another concert with her after that post and didn't mention it on his wall. And when I discussed those "likes" with him, he blurted out the concert in December which was the one he neglected to add to his wall. So he outed himself.

Facebook can really show a pattern of behavior and you should be aware of it. Can you see her other activities? Is she liking a lot of other guys' stuff?
 
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She liked a couple of quotes I posted a couple months ago. Then I recently changed my profile picture and she liked it along with one of my comments on the photo. I'm trying not to read too much into it but she's got me thinking about her again. I've dated a lot since her and haven't found a connection like that so I'd still be interested in grabbing a coffee with her and seeing if the spark was still there but also don't want to go chasing wild geese.

Girls, would you like an ex boyfriend's FB photo sjust for the sake of liking it, or would you be trying to spark something? I know, personally, that I probably wouldn't bother liking an exes photo unless I was at least somewhat interested. I may be wrong, but tor some reason, I feel like she's trying to spark some conversation as I don't think she's the type to just text or call me out of the blue...I feel like I would have to initiate.

Am I crazy for thinking this!?

Thanks all!
I would be trying to spark something. (unless we had remained friends all along of course...) I think most women are like this, which is why we get so pissed when we see ex's or the same girl liking and commenting on all our mans' pics and posts. ;)
 
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Personally, I wouldn't like an exes posts or pictures unless I was trying to grab their attention.

But that's just me.

You could message her and say hey and ask her how she's been doing and see where it goes. You might strike up a pleasant conversation. You could ask her to grab a coffee or go out to lunch or whatever to catch up with an old friend.
Interesting take FlowerChild. That's what I was kind of thinking too. I probably wouldn't bother liking an ex's post if I wasn't interested unless maybe we were friends or something. One question though, I was thinking with her still being abroad maybe it is best to wait until she returns to even consider doing something?? That should be fairly soon.
 
#18 ·
A short but intense relationship that ended abruptly and without closure. Just kind of faded away
This statement confuses me. How do you have relationship "end abruptly" but just "fade away"? Those two clauses are in direct conflict with one another.

I was trying to forget her and just move on when kind of out of the blue she started liking some of my Facebook posts.
This is another reason why I refuse to use something like StalkerBook, and when I do, only have close personal friends or family members with visible access to my data.

Remember: ex's are ex's for a reason. It is easy to focus on the "good" times together, the human brain does not want to focus on misery.
 
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This statement confuses me. How do you have relationship "end abruptly" but just "fade away"? Those two clauses are in direct conflict with one another.
Yeah so by abruptly I meant kind of out of nowhere and when things seemed to be going well with us. It wasn't like we were not getting along and/or fighting for months or something and the writing was on the wall...So yeah just to clarify.

Again, it was a distance relationship so we were both calling / texting less, etc then she was leaving for abroad so I wished her fairwell and that was kind of it. But no real closure...
 
#22 ·
Are you sure SHE felt you had a connection? I have a very similar friendship with a man I met after my divorce. We are still friends on FB, and I know HE would say we had a great connection. And, I really did enjoy our talks and friendship, but was not interested in a relationship. He really wanted to date, I was very clear with him that I did not, and why, but he did try quite hard even after I told him that. Eventually I got back together with m ex, and he soon started dating someone, and he still is. I still like things on FB from time to time, comment, etc., but not because I'm interested in him. He does not know my relationship is ending again and I'll once again be single because he's not a close friend and I don't discuss stuff like that on FB. But, I guess, if/when he finds that out I will have to be careful about likes and comments because I would not want him to get the wrong idea. I do know from talking to him on FB soon after he started dating his GF he wasn't completely sure about it because of religious differences, so I do not think it is a rock solid relationship. I certainly would not want to give him the wrong idea and jeopardize his relationship.

Just offering this perspective because perhaps she really does just want to be friends. Either way, you will not know unless you ask her.
 
#24 ·
Are you sure SHE felt you had a connection? .
Thanks for sharing...

Yeah, I am pretty sure. She told me as much although maybe she wasn't sure or was just saying it.

She told me she liked me a lot...asked me if we were "exclusive", invited me to meet her dad and her sister and sister's husband. Plus, we had some really deep conversations very quickly. She told me she felt something for me "right away" and that was my experience as well
 
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Thanks for your thoughts, Gouge. Appreciated.

My biggest reservation is because things ended kind of awkwardly. I went to see her when I was sick and we spent the weekend together. It just wasn't a great weekend and I kind of wasn't myself, not feeling good and having to meet her parents and whatnot. I explained to her I wasn't feeling well and she kind of understood but didn't know what to make of it. After this weekend we kept in touch but with her leaving soon for abroad, it just kind of faded away and we slowly stopped talking. It wasn't until recently that she liked a couple of my posts...
 
#40 ·
If she faded on you, she was looking elsewhere or was bored.

If she is communicating with you again, it means she lost her new plaything or is bored and is putting out feelers.

A woman that really likes you and is happy with things doesn't fade just because things get boring. She works to help keep things alive. So whatever the reason, I doubt she's that into you.
 
#41 ·
I had met and briefly dated a man whom I had a pretty good connection with who too was leaving overseas for an extended tour. Difference is, he didn't have a facebook and cut it off (as in quit contacting me) a few days before he was set to leave. I didn't even get a chance to say goodbye. While I enjoyed his company (and got into it knowing it wasn't going to last) I was a bit put off by the fact that he didn't even leave me an e-mail address to keep in touch. If he tried to contact me now, I would say no thanks.

You guys have been facebook friends this whole time and not one message? Sure, she's probably looking for your attention by the "likes." But I'm not sure if shes all that into you. Just my opinion.
 
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#42 ·
yeah, fair enough. I can't totally argue with either of you. I debate myself whether or not the "communication" is any sign of interest.

But I do wonder if I should try and "feel it out" and see if its more or not, just don't know what to do or just leave it?
 
#43 ·
Feel it out, by all means! Just be aware that she could only be looking for self validation through you, and not INTO you.
 
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