I'm in a long distance relationship and feeling frustrated at how the communication between me and him is. Basically I feel like if I don't message him first, he won't message me.
He accused me once of playing games and waiting for him to message me first when really I have never had problems initiating contact. I just thought since my day starts earlier than his due to the time difference it made more sense to me that it would be him to text me when he was awake etc. Whenever it got to a certain time and I was reasonably sure he would be awake by then, I would send a text no problem and it would turn out he had been awake for hours. It baffled me that he would tell me I was playing games when he could have messaged me then if he was awake. I would be left feeling like he wasn't all that eager to talk to me then.
We use an app to text each other and the app tells me when a message has been read. Well sometimes it happens that I send a message and I see he's read it but I won't hear from him for hours until I message him back and he acts like I am the one who's been ignoring him and even acts annoyed that I didn't write back earlier. I recognised I tend to get clingy, but he says he doesn't mind it at all - he actually likes it.
I know it's kind of a stupid issue but it bothers me as I feel like there's no balance in this. I don't want him to be glued to the phone 24/7 of course and text me every minute; I would just like for him to show me a bit of attention and make the effort of initiating contact every now and then etc. That's how I can feel loved I suppose with the long distance and everything.
With that said, he says he loves me, he likes it when I message him, so not a matter of lack of feelings for me.
He accused me once of playing games and waiting for him to message me first when really I have never had problems initiating contact. I just thought since my day starts earlier than his due to the time difference it made more sense to me that it would be him to text me when he was awake etc. Whenever it got to a certain time and I was reasonably sure he would be awake by then, I would send a text no problem and it would turn out he had been awake for hours. It baffled me that he would tell me I was playing games when he could have messaged me then if he was awake. I would be left feeling like he wasn't all that eager to talk to me then.
We use an app to text each other and the app tells me when a message has been read. Well sometimes it happens that I send a message and I see he's read it but I won't hear from him for hours until I message him back and he acts like I am the one who's been ignoring him and even acts annoyed that I didn't write back earlier. I recognised I tend to get clingy, but he says he doesn't mind it at all - he actually likes it.
I know it's kind of a stupid issue but it bothers me as I feel like there's no balance in this. I don't want him to be glued to the phone 24/7 of course and text me every minute; I would just like for him to show me a bit of attention and make the effort of initiating contact every now and then etc. That's how I can feel loved I suppose with the long distance and everything.
With that said, he says he loves me, he likes it when I message him, so not a matter of lack of feelings for me.