It'd take too long to go into the finer details, so I'll keep them brief -
I cheated (not sex, but it was still cheating). One night, not an affair. I went home to my wife and admitted to it straight away.
We went to counselling, talked through the problems we'd had in the relationship, and things improved.
It's almost 3 years down the line. I've basically given up on having a life of my own, I rarely see my friends, as my wife hates the idea of me going out.
I'm invited to a night away with a group of friends next weekend, I've not mentioned it to my wife yet, I know she'll say she doesn't want me to go. I know she'll become hysterical at the thought of it. But I really want to go, I think it'll be a really good night out. I've passed up on many other nights out and social things with friends in order to show that she's the most important person in my life, and that I want us to be together.
So, what to do? Do I go, or do I continue to pander to my wife's insecurities? I feel like I'm damned if I do, and damned if I don't. If I go, she'll be miserable (3 years down the line or not, I know she still struggles with what happened), if I don't then I'll never end up doing anything, I'll just continue to pass up on my friends until eventually they stop asking me to join them.
I cheated (not sex, but it was still cheating). One night, not an affair. I went home to my wife and admitted to it straight away.
We went to counselling, talked through the problems we'd had in the relationship, and things improved.
It's almost 3 years down the line. I've basically given up on having a life of my own, I rarely see my friends, as my wife hates the idea of me going out.
I'm invited to a night away with a group of friends next weekend, I've not mentioned it to my wife yet, I know she'll say she doesn't want me to go. I know she'll become hysterical at the thought of it. But I really want to go, I think it'll be a really good night out. I've passed up on many other nights out and social things with friends in order to show that she's the most important person in my life, and that I want us to be together.
So, what to do? Do I go, or do I continue to pander to my wife's insecurities? I feel like I'm damned if I do, and damned if I don't. If I go, she'll be miserable (3 years down the line or not, I know she still struggles with what happened), if I don't then I'll never end up doing anything, I'll just continue to pass up on my friends until eventually they stop asking me to join them.