Good evening all
Just a random scenario to think about with regards to your relationship.
Imagine you discover that you spouse has fallen in love with a wealthy person. They are happy. If you have kids, they will give you your choice of custody. You may keep all your combined assets. In addition their new wealthy partner writes you a check for 10 years of your partner's former pay to cover he loss of their income.
So - there are no practical issues. No financial issues.
How do you feel? Sad? Angry? Relieved? Happy? Lost?
I'm trying to find a way to separate how one feels about their spouse from all of the practical issues surrounding a relationship.
Billionaire Romance is a huge genre. It's all fluff and wishes to me. If my partner was faithless enough to fall for that dream, I'd get it in writing.
How would I feel? I would feel hurt that my partner cheated on me. I would also feel insulted that the AP would feel the need to buy me out in order to absolve themselve from any guilt of being a home wrecker. But, at the end of the day I would take the money & create a wonderful life for myself & daughter. ;-)
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the check wasn't intended to be central to the discussion. I just wanted to cover the case where the spouse was the only one working, so you would be left in a bad situation .
Really what I am asking is if there were no practical issues at all, how many people would want to keep their spouses, and how many would want to leave?
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I ask because a lot of posters here seem unhappy in their relationships (there is of course selection effect). So, I'm wondering how people would feel if they had a way out that had no practical or moral problems for them. Its a way to ask, do you *really* want out or do you really want to stay, and just keep finding excuses for staying.
Once you start trying to find guiltless or easy ways out of being married, even in fantasy life, it's time to have a cold hard conversation with your spouse.
In my world, both relationships can co-exist. We did not live a monogamous marriage but it worked for us. Worked very well. No one had to decide who to chose over the other. We co-existed quite nicely.
If my spouse left me for someone else it's her loss. I'd grieve the loss of what I had (or thought I had, or thought I could have had), I'd be angry that she would split up my children's home and hand over custody of them (abandon them), and glad that if she really disliked me so much that she'd break her vows to get away from me, that she'd be out of my sight. I'd get as much of what she is willing to give away in writing and make sure from my lawyer that it would withstand scrutiny in court, and then I'd move on and continue enjoying my life with those who actually want to be in my life.
If she's happier with someone else even with our great prior history, then she should be with them, IMO. I'd be sad, maybe even lost for a while, but I would get over it. Besides, in this scenario, I'd have lots of money to put towards things that make me happy.
Good evening all
Just a random scenario to think about with regards to your relationship.
Imagine you discover that you spouse has fallen in love with a wealthy person. They are happy. If you have kids, they will give you your choice of custody. You may keep all your combined assets. In addition their new wealthy partner writes you a check for 10 years of your partner's former pay to cover he loss of their income.
So - there are no practical issues. No financial issues.
How do you feel? Sad? Angry? Relieved? Happy? Lost?
I'm trying to find a way to separate how one feels about their spouse from all of the practical issues surrounding a relationship.
I would feel that he was a crap parent to seek to purchase absolution over his opinion of the best interest of the children.
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