Hi Everyone. My divorce has been final for just over 2 years. I met a guy, through a mutual friend, about 11 months ago. We took things SUPER slow. He lives 2 hours from me and we would meet up on the weekends, for a day or so, that my ex had my kids. We decided almost immediately that we would become exclusive (neither of us are the "sleeping around" type) yet still continue to take things slow. About 4 months ago, we decided to put a label on it and we're now boyfriend/girlfriend (lol I'm 30, he's 38, he is not married and has no kids..) This has continued, to this day, we generally meet up every other weekend, he will come to me or I will go to him. My ex and I divorced on BAD terms. He lied to me for our entire 12 year relationship (5 yr marriage). When I say the entire 12 years, I literally mean the ENTIRE 12 years. It was a bad break up and we still are very hostile towards one another when communicating about our kids. So, I have trust issues. SERIOUS trust issues. Which leads me to why I'm here..
#1: He's a comedian and is big into facebook just to get "recognized", which I get. But damn, his followers act to him as if they are best friends. Always commenting on everything, sending messages (have never read a message, so I can't tell you what they're about), tagging him in things, etc. He tells me to please stop worrying, he's not doing anything wrong. (he even put his relationship status, with me, online) And I truly don't belive that he is doing anything, to be honest, however my trust issues flare up and I pick arguements about it.
#2: I'm also very insecure, because of my marriage, I would consider myself pretty good looking, as soon as my ex and I seperated, I began going to the gym, eating clean. However I'm just super insecure. Always think he's doing something behind my back. I feel "needy" right now. He will tell me that I'm beautiful and I will almost shy away as if I don't believe him.
#3: Communication? We text regularly. It bugs me, sometimes, when I don't know where he is or what he's doing if we go more than a few hours without texting.
After re-reading this post, I look like a total psycho crazy person, but I'm really not. At all. (FTR, I don't let him in on most of this.. he knows FB bothers me, but that's about it) I'm just broken down from my marriage (we were together when I was 16), it's hard finding "me", I don't know who "me" is, to be honest with you. I've never known an adult me. It was always "us". Anyway, I guess I just need some pointers on the long distance thing. He has met my kids, only once, and as a friend only. They talk about him a lot, but it's always a "friend". I'm afraid to go let him any further, because the future scares me.
#1: He's a comedian and is big into facebook just to get "recognized", which I get. But damn, his followers act to him as if they are best friends. Always commenting on everything, sending messages (have never read a message, so I can't tell you what they're about), tagging him in things, etc. He tells me to please stop worrying, he's not doing anything wrong. (he even put his relationship status, with me, online) And I truly don't belive that he is doing anything, to be honest, however my trust issues flare up and I pick arguements about it.
#2: I'm also very insecure, because of my marriage, I would consider myself pretty good looking, as soon as my ex and I seperated, I began going to the gym, eating clean. However I'm just super insecure. Always think he's doing something behind my back. I feel "needy" right now. He will tell me that I'm beautiful and I will almost shy away as if I don't believe him.
#3: Communication? We text regularly. It bugs me, sometimes, when I don't know where he is or what he's doing if we go more than a few hours without texting.
After re-reading this post, I look like a total psycho crazy person, but I'm really not. At all. (FTR, I don't let him in on most of this.. he knows FB bothers me, but that's about it) I'm just broken down from my marriage (we were together when I was 16), it's hard finding "me", I don't know who "me" is, to be honest with you. I've never known an adult me. It was always "us". Anyway, I guess I just need some pointers on the long distance thing. He has met my kids, only once, and as a friend only. They talk about him a lot, but it's always a "friend". I'm afraid to go let him any further, because the future scares me.