Most women that marry again, lets not beat about the bush, do it for financial stability and not to be alone. Anything else is BS, and only a fool will buy into it..especially if these women come with kids, drama, and nothing tangible besides sex to offer.
This is a gross generalization. I remarried and certainly didn't do it for financial security. I have my own money and a lucrative career.
Almost all of my female friends are successful career women or business owners and over half of them are remarried. None for money...all because they met guys who they wanted to spend their lives with. One of my best friends is a doctor and she helps to support her husband who's an artist and earns considerably less money than she does.
That being said, there's a lot of women who get married, stop working and spend their lives...both before and after marriage...being financial drains to gullible men...it happens. And it happens to women too. One of my friends pays alimony to her ex and will for quite a long time because she allowed him to be lazy and only work part-time during their marriage.
Bottom line, you either do what I did and marry someone with the same level of success and financial assets that you have....or you protect yourself financially. This applies to 1st marriages but is particularly true of 2nd marriages when you walk in with pre-established assets.
-Never support another adult. If someone refuses to be financially self-sufficient after you marry them, divorce them immediately before you end up with years of alimony payments.
-Have financial intimacy with your partner before you marry them. Know their spending habits, their financial morality, their credit rating, their asset/debt load and their long-term financial goals. If those things are not compatible with you, walk away.
-Get a pre-nup or allocate money to accounts that cannot be touched by your spouse. Make sure that your kids' assets are protected in accounts that cannot be touched by your spouse.
I have discovered a lot about myself since my divorce. I've had time to recognize my true feelings. I suppose I discovered that being single suits me. It's like trying a new food and thinking, "hey, this is good." that's how I am about not being in a relationship. After I was single a while, I noticed I liked it rather well. I enjoy the peace and doing my own thing.
I don't think there's anything wrong with staying single after divorce. Its actually initially what I planned to do. Although I enjoy the company, I certainly didn't need a man for anything. And I wasn't interested in casual sex...the thought of having sex with men I didn't have any loyalty to or care about long-term was just a gross idea. I also really like having private time to do what I want without anyone wanting something from me. So I planned to be happily single and just enjoy life with my kids, friends and family. I totally get your position and can understand the appeal of it.
Then by pure luck, I met my now husband. He is simply put, the most amazing person I've met. He's an amazing dad and is brilliant, hilarious, gorgeous, successful, sexy, loyal and kind....and I was just blown away....still am, every single day. I'm really grateful that I met him before all the lovely, smart women he works with figured out that he was divorcing.
I think being single can be fun, satisfying and a great life but if you meet the right person, it all goes out the window. Sometimes you just know what you know.