My wife and I have been married for 7 years and together for 8 1/2 years. On May 31, she told me that she was not in not in love with me anymore and wants me to leave. We have had our ups and downs, but I always thought we were there for each other. We had a lot of happy times.
I used to make a lot of money, however, for the last year I have been under a lot of financial stress to keep my business afloat. That being said, for a recession, I think I am doing better than most.
Just as things are getting better with my work, she tells me that she is done. She told me that I have been ignoring her for over a year and that she was very lonely and depressed. She said she loves me, but is not in love with me anymore. I admit that after working 13-hour days I was not in the mood to talk, and that was wrong.
When she told me this, I could tell that she was dead serious and I WAS DEVESTATED. She told me about this when I was stressed out about work. I told her I was sorry, and that I would change. She became very upset and practically threw me out of the house.
I spent two VERY SAD nights away from home. I was a CRYING mess and I begged her to allow me to come back. I think she felt sorry for me. I read on this forum about manning up and I think I need to do that. I asked her if we could go to Marriage Counseling and she said no. She said I needed counseling to become a better and happier person, before we could work on the marriage. I have gone to two sessions by myself. I am willing to put the work in to be happier.
We talk often and can communicate well since she made this announcement. We have even gone some places together. However, for three weeks, she won’t hold my hand, or let me sleep in the bedroom. She only gets upset if I try to hug or kiss her or I try to talk about our marriage.
Although I have been home for three weeks now, things are not back to normal, but I need some advice and feedback. I have asked her several times if things are going to work out with us and she keeps saying “I don’t know.” I think there is hope for our marriage but I need some advice on how to move forward on this. FYI - I HAVE NEVER BEEN THIS SAD IN MY LIFE.
Thank you.
I used to make a lot of money, however, for the last year I have been under a lot of financial stress to keep my business afloat. That being said, for a recession, I think I am doing better than most.
Just as things are getting better with my work, she tells me that she is done. She told me that I have been ignoring her for over a year and that she was very lonely and depressed. She said she loves me, but is not in love with me anymore. I admit that after working 13-hour days I was not in the mood to talk, and that was wrong.
When she told me this, I could tell that she was dead serious and I WAS DEVESTATED. She told me about this when I was stressed out about work. I told her I was sorry, and that I would change. She became very upset and practically threw me out of the house.
I spent two VERY SAD nights away from home. I was a CRYING mess and I begged her to allow me to come back. I think she felt sorry for me. I read on this forum about manning up and I think I need to do that. I asked her if we could go to Marriage Counseling and she said no. She said I needed counseling to become a better and happier person, before we could work on the marriage. I have gone to two sessions by myself. I am willing to put the work in to be happier.
We talk often and can communicate well since she made this announcement. We have even gone some places together. However, for three weeks, she won’t hold my hand, or let me sleep in the bedroom. She only gets upset if I try to hug or kiss her or I try to talk about our marriage.
Although I have been home for three weeks now, things are not back to normal, but I need some advice and feedback. I have asked her several times if things are going to work out with us and she keeps saying “I don’t know.” I think there is hope for our marriage but I need some advice on how to move forward on this. FYI - I HAVE NEVER BEEN THIS SAD IN MY LIFE.
Thank you.