MyTwoGirls & Ohrunner,
Thank you for your comments. I am very sorry that both of you are going through that, because it really sucks. MyTwoGirls, it seems that you are getting to a better place right now. I hope to get there, also. I just can't wrap my head around why people walk away from a marriage, when they can work things out.
Ohrunner, are you still living at your house? If so, how is she acting toward you?
For the record, I am 39 and my wife is 42. For me, it seems that everything is up in the air right now and I am getting confused. On saturday night, we were talking and held hands for a while. We even made plans for our wedding aniversary which is comming up in three weeks. Then on sunday, she got upset
with me again when I told her that I loved her and talked about our marriage future. She said she sees no future for us. This is all very confusing for me, and I don't know how much more I can take. She has made it clear that I was not there for her when she needed me. My only defense to that was that I had to work everyday for practiacally a year to keep my business afloat and still bring home money.
I have three people to talk to about this: My cousin, my sister, and a friend. Independently, they have all given me the same advice. My cousin straight out told me don't cry in front of her. My sister said the same thing and she also said that if I keep pushing my wife things will get worse. My friend who is a divorce and bankruptcy lawyer said, "Does this mean you get to date 26 year olds again?
" That actually made me laugh.
I really hope things work out. I will keep you posted on how things are going. It seems that each day is up and down. I have a really hard time concentrating on work, and that is a problem. I am meeting with my therapist on wednesday.