artycupid

Hey there, I posted a few months ago concerned about no ones liking of my fiance and his obsession with sports.

Well things calmed down and i proceeded with wedding plans. it is literally in a month! omg, anyway,

Last night i found some of his emails and he has been sexting a woman, they havent met up, he swears hes never met her before in his life, that she just started flirting with him on twitter. From what I read, that seems to be the case. She's apparently insanely into him and he was going along with it for the fun and attention.

NOW im seriously freaked out, he didnt CHEAT but i mean we arent even married yet and sexting some stranger??

I have to go through with the weddnig, i love him, i have family flying in from all over the country, and my dad blew 10k on this wedding, and i blew all my savings.

Advice here, other than RUN from the wedding?

Does sexting necessarily mean he will cheat?

827Aug

I'm sorry you are going through this.....but, I believe I'd be running. Okay, do more investigating, then run. Where there's smoke there's fire.

COGypsy

Well IF you're determined to marry this guy on top of all the things that you described before...

And IF you're okay with him displaying just about every red flag behavior of an abuser...

And IF you really believe that someone just magically found your fiancee on twitter and flattered him into a sexting affair...

Then what I would say is that even if he isn't actually getting naked with this woman, this time, then it says a lot that he doesn't seem to think anything is wrong with doing this. How easy will it be for him to go one step further next time someone strokes his er...'twitter'??

So really, if you're going to go through with the wedding, I'd keep your half of all those wedding checks and put them away to use for your lawyer's retainer or a deposit on your own place when you've had enough.

Oh, and an STD test probably wouldn't be a bad idea, either...
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Marvellous

Many marriages fail because of lack of commitment. I understand your feelings - that you're in love and you can't think of running away from your wedding. When one is in love, running away is not an option. But I suggest that you stop for a moment to think it over. A guy who shows early signs of cheating is not committed. And you know what happens to marriages without commitment. Sexting is still cheating. It doesn't have a euphemism.

Homemaker_Numero_Uno

Sweetie, if he's doing this now, when he knows you have your back against the wall because of the wedding plans, WHAT is he going to feel he can get away with once you've been PINNED to the wall.

Have a wonderful family reunion, send cancellation notices to his family and friends, invite your friends you had to leave out because of accommodating his friends, and hire a security detail to check and enforce the invites.

I am not a photo gal, but I think the day's congratulations as commemorated in print will make a wonderful memory book for you.

F-102

He sexted= he cheated.
Would you rather your family be disappointed over the wedding, or watch you go through years of misery?

credamdóchasgra

No, you do not. Everyone will understand. It is much easier to run from it before it happens than after.

Over time, you'll pay your dad back the 10k.

Everyone will understand.

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