12-31-2012, 11:26 PM
Join Date: Dec 2012
| | Re: has anyone dealt w spouse in cult?
Okay guys, I have a friend who is also a "member" of the Galactic Federation of Light. First, I am your average person square job do public service work and college graduate. I am essentialy not any more or less crazy than your average American, no psych history. My friend who is in this group....cult just became involved with all of this and the "pledians" a couple of years ago. Before that it was channeling and psychics, before that it was her own religion as all other's were unsuitable, before that it was psychics, meditation and yoga, before that she went through a divorce at around 35, before that one of her children tragiclly died shattering her life. In fact I am convinced that her first step in that direction which was with the psychics and readings was merely an attempt to contact her deceased child because she could not accept the tragedy.
Here is my point, I love her very much and I have known her for 30 years. I believe absolutely none of her crap but I listen and remain her friend because no matter what I love her anyway and hope that one day she can find her way again. She is quiet, fragile and absolutely crazy. This craziness was caused by an event so incredibly painful to her that she never could recover and was completely shattered. I will always be her friend however, I would never ever be married to her and I question whether she pays for all of this crap she is involved in. My greatest fear is that one day the cult that she happens to be in decides they need to drink kool aid. If I try to change her mind she becomes so upset and hurt that she would terminate our friendship and I know she needs me. She has not the money to seek help, would never take any medications and couldnt afford them and forcing her in anyway to accept that she lives in an unreal world would absolutely provoke a panic that might cause her to hurt herself.
This group The Galactic Federation of Light is not the first nor will it be the last. The actual function of this group for her even though she doesn't understand this is to provide her with some kind of unique identity so she can camoflauge her inability to function normally and present it as a personal choice or quest which is deliberate. In time she has come to really sincerely believe all of this nonsense herself to such an extent that if challenged she truly goes into a serious panic and anxiety event which border's on hysteric's. If you look them up and examine all of their resources online clearly they are a cult and these people live in fantasy land. Most likely the driving source is money in the form of financial gifts or contributions.
If she were my daughter and 20 instead of 60ish I would have her committed to help her. But my friend is not, she lives on social security in a world of her own not needing to work and wanting to distance herself from the world. If you have money in your family and health benefits I would think that a committment to a psychiatric facility would be helpful but many people sadly do not have that kind of access. If your married to someone like that with no help eventually you will have to be strong enough to make a decision to rescue yourself if the spouse involved refuses help and resists. That's my two cents and I wish you good luck. Sorry for any misspellings or bad grammar folks.