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My wife and i have been together since 2001. When i got out of the military i knew i was done with one nite stands and wasn't really looking for anything, just wanted to hang out in my home town. I met my wife at a club and we started dating. When we were dating we loved to party alot, legally and sometimes illegally. So this lasted until she got pregnant in 2003. Our daughter was born and it has been the best. We still partied off and on together for awhile. We got married in 2006, (she felt we should). It always seems every 6mos. we escalate into an argument of not being together. That all we had was the "party" that was in common, (which is how i feel). She has always been financially dependent on me. Now let me clarify; she has always had her own job but i pay for everything (rent utilites,) she pays for her own bills. Now she is in line for a better job and i feel that she is going to leave me. i don't feel bad about that because i feel it would be best. i only regret our daugther MEANING= i wish she wasnt' around to experience a divroce between her mom and dad. i know i will be there as much as possible. Anyway i feel i am ready for new beginning and i feel that she is too, i just think neither of us willing to own up the to fact that "hey it's time to move on". I feel ready. There is always more to the story and there is, but this is just a bit to get things going. Feel free to chime in at any time thanks
If you really think both of you are ready for divorce than sit down with her and see what you can agree to and find common ground where the two of you can be good co-parents.
If you really think both of you are ready for divorce than sit down with her and see what you can agree to and find common ground where the two of you can be good co-parents.
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Let her know how you feel now, and where you are headed. I'm sure if she's on the same page as you, and is planning on leaving, you two can work things out so it goes smoothly for your kid.
thanks guys appreciate the responses, i am going to wait till she gets through the academy and graduates in April, don't want to put added pressure on her. really appreciate it
Almost any two people can make a wonderful marriage if they put in 100% each. If every spouse spent even 10 minutes a day asking them selves how they could make the other spouse happy, divorce lawyers would go bust.
It's not rocket science, it just needs people to stop and think.
Almost any two people can make a wonderful marriage if they put in 100% each. If every spouse spent even 10 minutes a day asking them selves how they could make the other spouse happy, divorce lawyers would go bust.
It's not rocket science, it just needs people to stop and think.
toldya i was tired MT..i normally woulda been all over this. NICE SAVE!!!
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separated, honoring wife and family daily, she deserves the best me i can give her.
thanks guys appreciate the responses, i am going to wait till she gets through the academy and graduates in April, don't want to put added pressure on her. really appreciate it
Good maybe time will give you a different perspective.
Actually, it is a lot like rocket science. Especially from the mans point of view... I've often compared my marriage to rocket science just to get it across to my H that if he puts in all the little tedious, mundane efforts (b/c believe me rocket science is unbelievably tedious and mundane) year after year, and doesnt get discouraged every time something blows up in his face, well, then he could build a machine to take us outta this world!
Feeling like this is the end (i told you so)
Re: Feeling like this is the end (i told you so)
I've often compared my marriage to rocket science just to get it across to my H that if he puts in all the little tedious, mundane efforts (b/c believe me rocket science is unbelievably tedious and mundane) year after year, and doesnt get discouraged every time something blows up in his face, well, then he could build a machine to take us outta this world!
