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Only want this question answered by woman and I want complete Honesty

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#1 ·
why the hell would a woman who is not interested in seeing a guy for a second date ask him to walk her to the train which is a 8 block walk only to say this when we part ways

"it was nice meeting you"


I don't know much about dating but I am normal enough to know that particular statement didn't sound too good after a date. Which probably explains why she didn't text me to let me know she arrived home.

Why do some women do this stupid sh*T? Now I have to send her a inappropriate text for wasting my energy and time? All she had to say was "I have to go not can you walk with me to train.

I hate dating
 
#3 ·
From a woman's perspective: yes, if it was dark or late, she might just feel safer having you walk her to the train. She says "it was nice meeting you" because, maybe it was. And maybe, it was nice meeting you but she's not interested in a second date. Look, women are trained not to bruise men's egos and to be "nice". So, we learn to dance around things and not be blunt. I know it can be frustrating, and I hate dating too, but there it is.
 
#25 ·
I think you have to stop taking things so seriously. I'm guessing she had a nice time with you and wanted to continue it a bit further by having you walk with her those 8 blocks.
I agree, she should have texted you when she got home as you had asked - that would have been the polite thing to do. But perhaps she simply forgot or got distracted at home.
Her response to your text the next morning seemed very vague though. If I was interested I would have responded with something like "I had a great time last night". That would encourage you to ask her out again. But she didn't really give you an open door by just simply answering your question and not asking anything back either.
Its possible that she really did have a good time in the moment, but thinking back on it, perhaps she rethought a few things and changed her mind. We've all had great first dates and were left wondering what happened when the person wasn't interested in another date. Its possible she's dating others that she's just more interested in or more vested in. Or perhaps she has her own issues about dating anyone period. We can never fully know what's going on in someone else's head. That's the world of dating! You have to have thick skin and live by the motto "easy come, easy go".
 
#26 ·
Well said, Sarah.

You have no idea what she arrived home to. Maybe her dog threw up all over himself in his crate. Maybe she got a phone call. Maybe she stopped somewhere and met a friend for drinks and forgot.

Do NOT send her a nasty text now about it. How do you think that will make you look to her?
 
#27 · (Edited)
Sounds like she wanted to continue getting to know you during the walk, as Sara said. If I was pretty much done with a date after coffee was over, I'd have gotten a cab or something if I could afford it. It'd probably only be five bucks or so for 8 blocks, so definitely doable.

Maybe one of your answers to her questions made her decide against a second date? For example, if I asked my first date what kind of music he liked and he said, "Country," there wouldn't be a second. For real.
 
#31 ·
For example, if I asked my first date what kind of music he liked and he said, "Country," there wouldn't be a second. For real.
We can no longer be friends, NMB. :crying:
 
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#48 ·
Haha! It's not my favorite genre, but I do have to admit I like it. However, my disgusting ex recently accused me of having the song "girl crush" written about me because of how I feel about his OW. (Look it up) Like i should expect anything but that behavior from him...... (I now change the station every time that song comes on)

Hijack over!
 
#46 ·
I'm clearly not a lady but she may have had a couple of different reasons for asking you to walk her to the train...

1. She didn't feel safe.
2. She hadn't yet made up her mind about you and figured she'd use the extra time w/ you to do so. And, more specifically, she may have wanted to gauge your reaction to the question itself.
 
#53 · (Edited)
You have the wrong idea of dating. Primarily, you're getting to know what you like and don't like about women. That means you don't form any attachment until you've dated at lest 10 women. Then you will be more relaxed about dating and able to decide what you like and don't like.

Some dates will be duds for no apparent reason. This woman may have been making conversation to fill the time while you were walking. She may have been uncomfortable about walking 8 blocks alone, no matter how safe it seemed to you.

Anyway, she wasn't that in to you and she was being kind to tell you indirectly. Let it go. Don't get bitter and angry, that will carry over to subsequent dates. What you experienced is dating not a rejection. Remember, you are interviewing the women you meet and they are interviewing you.
 
#55 ·
You have the wrong idea of dating. Primarily, you're getting to know what you like and don't like about women. That means you don't form any attachment until you've dated at lest 10 women. Then you will be more relaxed about dating and able to decide what you like and don't like.

Some dates will be duds for no apparent reason. This woman may have been making conversation to fill the time while you were walking. She may have been uncomfortable about walking 8 blocks alone, no matter how safe it seemed to you. Anyway, she is not worth thinking about because you have no connection with her. Don't get bitter or angry, that will carry over to subsequent dates. What you experienced is dating not a rejection. Remember, you are interviewing the women you meet.
This is how I feel about both dating and job interviews. You're both just meeting to see if you're mutually compatible.
 
#60 ·
OP,
As a male I find your attitude to be selfish, inconsiderate and lacking maturity. She should not have had to ask you to walk her, you should have asked about her mode of transportation and offered to walk her whether you ever thought you would see her again or not. Find a dictionary and look up the word "gentleman" and then decide if being one is of any interest to you.
 
#64 ·
When I asked women in the past to walk them to the train they said NO because they wasn't interested

So I don't like that mixed signal **** by asking me to walk with her. Usually it's me who has to ask so you can see why I was confused that she wasn't interested
 
#63 ·
why the hell would a woman who is not interested in seeing a guy for a second date ask him to walk her to the train which is a 8 block walk only to say this when we part ways[...]"it was nice meeting you"[...]I hate dating
My guess is she surmised you were a rage-o-holic, or the creepy stalker type, and decided one date was enough.
 
#96 ·
dude, did you seriously agree to do something for someone and then resented the person you did it for because you agreed to do it?!
i can only assume its because you expected something in return that you never communicated out loud.

so, why not just state what you expect?

honestly, there isnt a darned thing wrong with having expectations, but resenting someone for YOUR decisions is a completely useless endeavor. it will NOT get you what you want because it is based on the self delusion that other people know whats going through your head and that you know whats going through theirs.

if you are clear with others, they will be clear with you.

you gave mixed signals too. you walked her 8 blocks, as a gentleman would, and then sent her a nasty text. WTF??
 
#103 ·
She's not into you. And since you asked for honesty, I can understand why. You need to relax, man.

When I was dating, I met a guy with your attitude. I told him politely that I didn't think a 2nd date was in the cards for us and, wow, did he take it badly! I was so glad he didn't have any of my personal information.

I didn't ask him to walk me to my car, mind, and I was looking over my shoulder the whole time a bit worried he might stalk me. LOL.
 
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