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When we are home with just our family, neither of us wear our rings or any other kind of jewelry.
If we are hosting something at our home where others attend, we put them on. Whenever we go out - alone or together - to work or to work out or to shop or anything - we also always put our rings on.
Well, at work, some guys do wear their rings, and some even wear more bling than Mr. T (remember him?). Now it's not a rule, but it is discouraged. When we have to start the engines, we have to close a rather large electrical battery switch, one of those "Frankenstein's lab" types, and having a gold (excellent electrical conductor) ring on in such close proximity kinda scares me.
I do, however, wear a wristwatch (digital with velcro strap). It IS a job requirement, and a tradition amongst railroaders-I'm sure you've seen old paintings of engineers leaning out the window of the locomotive, one hand on the throttle and the other holding a pocket watch.
My W will not wear hers when shopping or running errands, but if there is, say, a meeting at the school or what not, she'll wear it, along with her engagement ring-I find that reassuring.
I'm going out with my bro and his fiancee for pretty much the whole day later this week, and I will wear my ring.
My husband and I don't wear rings but we were not in agreement. I could have gone either way originally but I didn't get to weigh in on the matter ultimately, and that is the only reason it was an issue. (long story)
Whatever you BOTH decide to do is just fine in my opinion!
I will add that we are often asked why we don't have rings and many assume we are not married.
We go to public events fairly often and many times I have been asked out by men with my husband standing right next to me . I can't help but laugh a little when it happens, its not the guys fault, I'm not wearing a ring! Also, my husbands close friends are very disapproving of our lack of rings.
But again, if you both are ok without, I think that's fine, just an fyi on our experience with other folks.
Right now I don't have one. I'm an avid weightlifter and the ring DIGS into your skin during workouts. I've taken it off before training and lost it.
TWICE. I'm buying a cheap band next month just to keep the peace.
My wife has a very valid point. If she went out without her ring on a regular, I'D GO BALLISTIC!
The women where I live seem to look at a ring a a challenge. I am virtually invisible without one, but get hit on alot when I am wearing it. Go figure. My wife noticed it too. After an incident where a woman got aggressive while I was out with my SISTER, my wife asked me not to wear it. She isn't a jewelry person either so she doesn't wear hers. Also, when you see me 99.9% you see her too. So, I like to think that that does more to deter people from hitting on either of us than anything. I may change my mind about the whole thing if we move though.
Yes, it IS strange, but whenever I'm alone and wearing the ring, women seem much NICER to me. And in relation to the Grass Roots song, too many people do NOT think that way.
But, for the people who feel that they MUST wear a ring, or demand that their spouse wear theirs at all times, or even the aforementioned "disapproving friends"...
...perhaps they aren't so sure of their marriages themselves?
...perhaps they aren't so sure of their marriages themselves?
This forum is replete with tales of "for sure" marriages that went sour due to weakness or temptation when the "door was opened" just a crack to take a peek at what was outside. The BEST way to avoid those situations is to do whatever is necessary to prevent the "door from opening" in the first place.
So, I ask anyone else out there, do you, too, not wear your ring-not out of spite or marital problems, but simply out of practicality and convenience?
Practicality and Convenience - all the way. Have never once in our marraige used our wedding bands in any kind of controlling way or to prove a point of irritation. Like you, mostly to go out, holidays, parties, etc. But when hanging out alone in our house, neither of us wear them.
Though my own Mother threw hers in the Ocean when her & my dad were getting a divorce, I remember her telling me that when I was a young girl, and I was thinking -what did you do that for, you could have given it to me ! I am sure finding that in the sand sure made someone's day!!
My husband has a very similar job as you --and it is not allowed, and they go out of thier way to show every accident that can befall a worker on his job for the littlest things, down to the Wedding band.
my stbxw stopped wearing hers awhile ago, I found out she only put it on when she was sending pics of herself to one of the OM that was obviously into married women. I always had mine on, literally. 6 months since I took it off and my hand still feels naked.
My husband isn't wearing his--he's put on enough weight over the decade since we bought them that his doesn't fit. It annoys me that he hasn't made resizing it a priority some days, other days I think maybe he's not getting it resized because he intends to loose the weight. He hasn't taken any steps towards that, though, either.
I'm not wearing mine partially because he's not wearing his, and partially because my hands swelled up at the end of pregnancy. Now baby's here, though, I've got to decide if I'm going to put it back on or not. I'm kind of leaning towards not until he puts his on again, on the other hand, I do like wearing my rings. (And jewelry in general.)
Only wore ours on special occasions like our anniversary.
Then we separated cause of his affair.
I started wearing mine every day because, it has a lot of power afterall.
Re: Anyone else not wear their wedding bands? 
. I can't help but laugh a little when it happens, its not the guys fault, I'm not wearing a ring! Also, my husbands close friends are very disapproving of our lack of rings.
She isn't a jewelry person either so she doesn't wear hers. Also, when you see me 99.9% you see her too. So, I like to think that that does more to deter people from hitting on either of us than anything. I may change my mind about the whole thing if we move though.
