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I was just reading the thread about the W whose H won't wear his ring, and then I had to look at myself and my marriage.
My wife and I rarely wear our wedding rings, and when we do, it is for special occasions, going out, holidays, etc. No, we have no issues of infidelity or fighting-we just don't really feel that it's totally necessary. Neither of us are into jewelry and bling, and in my job (locomotive engineer, or engine driver, for our friends in the UK), they warn us not to wear jewelry, and they even showed us a pic of some guy who wore his ring and it got hung up on a piece of equipment-took the flesh off his bone like the finger of a glove! That did it for me!
And besides, I always am afraid of losing it, as I always take it off to wash up. They're not fancy and only cost me maybe $40 for both, so it's not like they're hard to replace, but for what they symbolize, well, we don't want to lose them.
And yes, it has caused some awkward situations, like the time I was buying flowers for the W, and the clerk asked me if I was married, then where's my ring, and so I told her that we don't wear them every day, and she shot me this withering look, like she was saying: "Yeah, right! I know what you're up to, you a**hole!"
So, I ask anyone else out there, do you, too, not wear your ring-not out of spite or marital problems, but simply out of practicality and convenience?
I wore my wedding band for the first few years of my marriage, but I really am not a jewelry person. I don't even wear a watch. So I stopped wearing mine not out of spite or anything, just out of comfort.
My husband doesn't wear his since it got stuck when he had an accident while in motor school. Scared him. I don't wear mine because I'm a homemaker. I only put it on when I'm wearing the rest of my jewelry.
Rings have only one purpose, a sign to OTHERS that you are NOT available for a relationship. Mrs BigToe and I wear ours ALL the time.
I guess that's the thing... I never felt the need to bother signalling to anyone that I wasn't available, as the idea of being available simply wasn't in my mind. Plus I'm apparently clueless when it comes to being flirted with, so I never felt the urge to warn anyone away.
I take mine off when I'm working out, doing MA, using tools etc, otherwise I wear it all the time. Ditto Mrs Beane.
Basically if it can get in the way / hurt ME, it comes off. Otherwise it stays on.
F-102: your warning about what jewelry can do if it gets caught up in stuff ought to be rolled out to anyone who does DIY or uses weight machines at a gym (at least!).
Nearly had my finger cut off years ago when I was a machinist, and the ring got caught on a collet, so I quit wearing it. I work out with weights and have a woodshop, plus work in an office where rings are not allowed due to an attached factory. Even before quitting wearing them, my wife was frustrated with me needing a new one about every year due to wear (with the hobbies). Now, if I need to wear one to an event, I stick to tungsen carbide one with a gold inlay. My wife wears hers on days that she doesn't work.
i wear mine when i feel like it...husband dosent wear one, he has one, and its right safe home with me
i have had many rings over the past 11 years of marriage, but i change my mind about what i like so much, i cant commit to one lol
my current ring is nice, i love it, i picked it out from an antique store, and i recently bought a spinner ring from hot topic (half off,half off) i paid 1.00 yay..
so i wear them together, and it does look like a wedding band and engagement ring...but it does not keep the wolves at bay...i get hit on by bus drivers, gas station workers, grocery store workers, some guy driving down the street that HAD to turn around and come back...lots of granddads..yes gross.
the ring dosent tell anybody, im not ava, its now just a game..i get less play if i dont wear it....not none, just....less...
the ring is state of mind, im not ava, and i am up front about it, and dont take phone numbers, and def dont give mine out. ring, no ring, what difference does it make? if the other persons mind set is cheating, that little metal leash isnt going to stop anybody from doing what ever they want...
Now, if I need to wear one to an event, I stick to tungsen carbide one with a gold inlay. My wife wears hers on days that she doesn't work.
He he he, I have tungsten carbide too, after a lot of research it just fit me and what I do. won't crush, won't tarnish and is so tough you can scratch your name in the concrete with it....
I take my rings off before I go to sleep, don't wear in the shower, or if I'm just at home doing chores. I have on occasion forgotten to wear them when going out during the day, but that's rare. However the rings and, to be honest getting married, were never important to me. He knows this. I never had the daydream of being a bride. I just wanted to be with him. End of story. The ring is more important to my H. To him it symbolizes our love. But that's just what it is, isn't it? A symbol. I don't need a symbol to know I'm loved, to know he loves me, or to tell others we're unavailable. I don't purposely not wear my ring either though, if that makes sense?
H and I never took ours off. But he never wore one with his first wife. Ever. I wore mine because I loved it so much. He picked it out by himself and it was a beautiful gift. I may continue wearing it as a right hand ring even though we aren't together.
For some people it is a symbol of love...they shouldn't be criticized for that. And those who see it as nothing but a piece of overpriced metal...well they shouldn't be judged for that either. Posted via Mobile Device
Anyone else not wear their wedding bands? 
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