07-06-2011, 03:27 PM
Join Date: Jun 2011
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I told my wife I was not in love with her 2 months ago. We are married for 20 years and have 3 great kids. 2 gone off to college and youngest is 17. I know I have never truly been in love with her. We have been more like best friends, room mates. We have never had a great sexual relationship. She has never been interested very much at all in the bedroom. I have tried talking to her many many times over the years and she said she just is not interested or just lacks sex drive. she would never go see the doctor.
She has always had a temper and is a very controlling person. Over the past 3-4 years she has not been very happy and I have asked her a lot why not and she just won't talk about it. She doesn't have to work, maybe that is the problem.
The past year she has been very angry, unhappy and always *****y with me and the kids.
I have been living in a shell and have been afraid of her and her angry self.
I have not been able to do the things I like to do and basicial have learned only to do the stuff she likes to do.
Enough is enough and I finally have stoud up to her and told her I am not happy, don't love her etc etc. She says she reallized she has taken me for grantite and knows she was not happy.
We have tried to fix thing over past 2 months, one minute she is happy tells she loves me so much and than snaps. I will not fight back. I moved out a week and half ago.
She and the kids are begging me to come back home. I know I don't love her and have not been happy for a very long time. I am done being controlled and told what to do all the time.
Please advise, I am 99.5% sure I have done the right thing.