11-03-2008, 03:21 AM
Join Date: Apr 2008
| | Time apart - is it really so bad?
For those who don't know my story, the short version: wife and I are going through a tough patch. We are both bored, with life and with each other. She is still very much in love with me. I simply don't feel that anymore. Feels like I need some space.
I see so many other couples (with a bit of a struggle), that pretend everything is fine. Eventually they drift apart, or inevitably have an affair. And then ofcourse the breakup or separation is justified.
I know about separtation and trial separation and all of that. I just wanted to know why is it so evil and bad to "break up".
Couples that are not married can do that. How are married couples different from that? We are also human, with flaws, are we not ?
For me it just seems like such a logical thing to do. We take time apart. Do some self search. Spend some time alone. Try to make new friends as individuals. Re-invent ourselves as individuals.
Become friends again.
I realize it can go the other way too, but right now, it is anyway going the "other" way for my marriage. Why wait till it errupts into an affair or a destructive divorce ?