I'm sure this has been addressed on here, repeatedly. I'm aware that strip clubs are some form of entertainment and so on. I've been in ones myself. So here is my question:
I'm in a relationship, about a year on and my BF is wonderful. Seriously, he is. Especially after reading some posts on here, I do completely understand how lucky I am. But he has a stag night coming up and I know some of the group he's going with so I know theyre going to a strip club. I am extremely uncomfortable with this. I'm keeping in mind this isn't a stag night, but a weekend trip. Other things are on the menu besides drinking and naked woman and he wants to go. The guys are all good friends and some of the planned events do seem fun, so I no longer uncomfortable with the strip club part. He wants to go, I get it. He doesn't want to be "the guy" that doesn't go on that part, or make the other taken men feel like a**holes (I'm sure their wives/GFs dont know about it) So fine. However, I just learned that this is going to be a lap dance club and getting a lap dance is part of the package. Is it unreasonable for me to want him not to get one? I think in my mind, if it was me and a hen night, I'd go. I sure as hell wouldn't have some man rubbing up on me though. It just crosses the line and I think he wouldn't like it (nor would I) and I wouldn't do it. I'm basically of the opinion that if you are out and need to wash any part of you to come home and get into bed with your other half, you are wrong. I'm sure if some guy has himself plastered to me some evening, my guy wouldn't want to be kissing afterward. I have an issue with the idea of him having some womans body plastered on him and giving him a kiss after. Seems a bit dirty to me. He doesn't know that I am aware of this being part of the game plan and I'm afraid if I mention it, he'll be worried about upsetting me or think I'm irrational. Thoughts?
I'm in a relationship, about a year on and my BF is wonderful. Seriously, he is. Especially after reading some posts on here, I do completely understand how lucky I am. But he has a stag night coming up and I know some of the group he's going with so I know theyre going to a strip club. I am extremely uncomfortable with this. I'm keeping in mind this isn't a stag night, but a weekend trip. Other things are on the menu besides drinking and naked woman and he wants to go. The guys are all good friends and some of the planned events do seem fun, so I no longer uncomfortable with the strip club part. He wants to go, I get it. He doesn't want to be "the guy" that doesn't go on that part, or make the other taken men feel like a**holes (I'm sure their wives/GFs dont know about it) So fine. However, I just learned that this is going to be a lap dance club and getting a lap dance is part of the package. Is it unreasonable for me to want him not to get one? I think in my mind, if it was me and a hen night, I'd go. I sure as hell wouldn't have some man rubbing up on me though. It just crosses the line and I think he wouldn't like it (nor would I) and I wouldn't do it. I'm basically of the opinion that if you are out and need to wash any part of you to come home and get into bed with your other half, you are wrong. I'm sure if some guy has himself plastered to me some evening, my guy wouldn't want to be kissing afterward. I have an issue with the idea of him having some womans body plastered on him and giving him a kiss after. Seems a bit dirty to me. He doesn't know that I am aware of this being part of the game plan and I'm afraid if I mention it, he'll be worried about upsetting me or think I'm irrational. Thoughts?