I'm too clingy and need help!
 Talk About Marriage
  The Marriage Advice and Relationship Help Forums
  right
Forums - For Therapists - Link to Us - Advertise  

    A Public Forum Provided by The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory
Register FAQ Community Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

General Relationship Discussion Although anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 07-12-2011, 07:03 PM   #1 (permalink)
Registered User
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 2
Default I'm too clingy and need help!

A couple of weeks ago my ex girlfriend broke up with me for many reasons. I am obsessed. Were STILL in LOVE with EACHOTHER and WANT TO BE WITH EACHOTHER but I need to fix my obsession with her before we can get back together. The only problem is I don't know how to stop wanting to be with her or how to stop the need to talk to her every hour to make sure shes okay or who shes out with. I can't go a moment without making sure shes okay. Which also leads to another problem our conversations are just small talk because I don't know how to hold an intresting conversation. I don't know what to talk about or say except for whinning about being so broken without her, and lets face it that gets really annoying. I literally can't breath when I don't talk or text her for long periods of time. I've never had a girl like her. Shes the only girl I've truely cared about and shes the only girl thats ever treated me like I'm the only guy in the world. Shes so amazing and beautiful and I want to fix my problems so that we can be together again, so please if you can help me that would save me from what feels like hell. and before everyone replys move on, were on sort of a break she still loves me and still wants to be with me and she told me I need to fix this before we get back together. also I am 18 and I know everyones going to say young love never works its because your young blah blah blah. Were a mature couple I just need to fix my problem.

Last edited by Ineedadvise; 07-13-2011 at 04:37 PM.
Ineedadvise is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 07-12-2011, 07:46 PM   #2 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Posts: 114
Default Re: I'm too clingy and need help!

You are not clingy or jealous.....you are obsessed!!!
Posted via Mobile Device
lonelyman is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-12-2011, 07:50 PM   #3 (permalink)
Registered User
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 2
Default Re: I'm too clingy and need help!

Quote:
Originally Posted by lonelyman View Post
You are not clingy or jealous.....you are obsessed!!!
Posted via Mobile Device
I know I'm obsessed and I know I need help. I don't want to be like this anymore. I just don't know where to start...
Ineedadvise is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-13-2011, 09:14 AM   #4 (permalink)
Member
 
Jellybeans's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Posts: 19,551
Default Re: I'm too clingy and need help!

Listen up: you need to move on.

Stop calling her. She dumped you. SHe didn't want to be with you anymore. Accept that and respect her decision.

You staying stuck in this hole trying your hardest to believe something that isn't true and not accepting reality is very unhealthy and toxic.

You are coming across as very psycho, weak and desperate to her. All of which are very unnattractive traits that will make her resent you and even less open to you.
Jellybeans is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-13-2011, 09:17 AM   #5 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 2,737
Default Re: I'm too clingy and need help!

How old are you? My advice will be different based on your age.
Mom6547 is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-13-2011, 02:08 PM   #6 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 68
Default Re: I'm too clingy and need help!

I feel like your age will make a difference on the advice you receive. In general I'd advise you to be strong and let her be. If she loves you the same she'll be back. Either way weakness is not attractive.
hbgirl is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-13-2011, 02:18 PM   #7 (permalink)
Resident Therapist
 
Riverside MFT's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Riverside, CA
Posts: 498
Default Re: I'm too clingy and need help!

Yup, time to move on with life and move on without her. You may not think so, but you will find someone again. You need to work on trusting people and your own confidence before you can have a healthy relationship. In dealing with relationships, before you find the right person, you have to be the right person.

Just as an FYI, the divorce rate skyrockets for people who get married when they are too young.
__________________
Brian, Marriage Counselor
My Counseling Webpage (for California and Utah Residents)
Improve My Marriage Blog
Riverside MFT is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-13-2011, 05:17 PM   #8 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 38
Default Re: I'm too clingy and need help!

Hey buddy, you got it bad eh?

Love does make people to crazy things, and your definitely in love. But your obsession is going to kill every relationship, no matter who with. I am not going to say drop it and move on like everybody else.

BUT you need to give her space, and you need to give yourself space. In these situations it has nothing to do with the relationship, it only has to do with you. So you need to work on yourself. There are tons of self help courses out there, or even go to a counselor.

In time once you got yourself all straightened out, I am sure she will notice the change and then you can work on the relationship.
Take care of yourself first though my friend. The first love is always the hardest.
P.S. once you gain some self confidence, if she has moved on, dont be afraid to to see what else is out there. If you 2 are meant to be, in time it will happen. But dating never hurts.
saveamarriage101 is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Tags
clingy, communication skills, help me!!!, obsessed

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.
User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Am I too clingy or what? SepticChange General Relationship Discussion 12 06-16-2012 08:15 PM
Need help. I am too emotional and clingy. CrazyVixen General Relationship Discussion 7 06-14-2012 03:43 PM
Clingy husband help eclectic General Relationship Discussion 24 09-08-2011 04:03 PM
New relationship - am I being too clingy? justonelife General Relationship Discussion 7 05-10-2011 05:36 PM
Dealing with clingy s2b ex h CaliMomof3 Going Through Divorce or Separation 8 01-05-2011 01:57 AM

Member Area

Find a Therapist:


Sponsor Ads


Sponsor Ads




Get The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory Help Guide via Email:
Name:
Email:




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 08:17 AM.



Copyright 2007 - 2013 © Talk About Marriage

SEO by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2 ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.