AtaCrossroad

I have been married for 11 years, and have one child. We have been going through a tough couple of years; we are both in school and neither of us are working. My husband is at the end of a though school program, one week left. I have been trying to make this school journey as painless as possible for him on the home front, but somewhere things went wrong. I have trust issues (I'm getting counseling for this) and he has problems with communication. He packed up some stuff and left yesterday, and I'm completely heart-broken. The biggest problem is that I have been trying to talk to him, but it's a one-sided conversation. I asked him why he can't open up to me and all I get is "I'm not there, I can't talk to you". I really want to save our marriage, but I'm worried I'm pushing him away even more with my attempts to talk to him. This is so hard...

BigToe

I'm sorry to hear of your predicament. As hard as it may be, try giving him some space.

2xloser

I agree, give him the space. Just let him know you're there, open arms waiting, and it's safe & OK to come back to talk it out (maybe via text so there's no further discussion) - and then let him be. He's going to do what he's going to do.

Meanwhile, build yourself a Plan B for what happens if he *doesn't* come back.... hopefully a plan you'll never need, but don't want to be caught without if things start moving real quickly in a negative way.

Sorry this is occurring to you; it hurts.

Jellybeans

If he told you he cannot talk to you, then stop telling him you want to talk to him.

You don't elaborate about the communication and trust issues so all we have to go on is just that. Without communication and trust, there is no sturdy relationship.