hbgirl

Try to make long story short--last night husband screamed at new puppy several times. It upsets the rest of the family every time he does because she gets scared and even more timid than she already is. Anyway, a little bit later he said she's a freakin retard and will always be a retard! I said she is not! He said "go figure you get mad at me for calling dog a retard." I got upset, cried and ended up going to bed. Later he comes in and asks why & I told him I didn't want to hear it anymore. Then I got to hear how I sympathize more with the puppy than him and he SLEEPS ON THE COUCH?! REALLY?! Am I way offbase to think there's something wrong with this picture?!

WhiteRabbit

that's just mean You don't call a poor defenseless puppy names and scream at it.
she's going to develop a submissive urination problem if he keeps intimidating her like that.

Tell him real men don't bully puppies.

hugs honey...I understand why you got upset and cried. I would have done the same thing. He sounds like he has a lot of pent up aggression and nowhere to vent it.

SHYONcE

He’s wrong. Screaming at a dog is not good for one thing. Buy him a dog training book or have him watch Caesar Milan dog whisperer every day until he gets it.

ALSO, imo, calling anyone or pet 'retard' is derogatory. Like calling any person a 'n#gg*r' not to downplay that, but it’s derogatory. The only instance when 'retard' is ok is if you are talking about timing on an automobile or something technical as in slowing something down. Tell him to get a grip and to adjust his language. Maybe your family should not own a dog, we have three, and they require patience.

hbgirl

I've thought about our family not having a dog. I've thought about giving her away. BUT how fair is that to the rest of us that are so attached to her? How can he possibly do the things he does to the puppy KNOWING how it upsets the rest of us? Then sleep on the couch to show me he's mad and I'm the one who's wrong yet again

Homemaker_Numero_Uno

Can you take this puppy back to where it came from?
The sooner the better.

In my fantasy world you get a really big dog that has issues and really is brain damaged. Your H yells at it and gets put into submissive position with dog's jaws locked around his neck, his chest pinned down by massive paws. You say, what did you expect? This dog is retarded. You should know better than to yell at a retarded dog!

hbgirl

If I took this puppy back my kids would never forgive me & I would never forgive my husband. I would regret and resent for a very long time.

Homemaker_Numero_Uno

Well, your kids will see that if their dad yells at them you won't protect them either. I think they will forgive you for doing what is right for the puppy. To allow children to witness abuse to an animal is very damaging psychologically.

PBear

And what's going to happen when the behavioral issues start? Things will only get worse...

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Dogs don't know why you're mad at them. They're not people. Hell most people don't know either.

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