Am I being Evil / husbands friends

KI0159 · 07-20-2011, 01:00 PM

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ClipClop · 07-20-2011, 01:03 PM

He is selfish. He put you second. Did you tell him under no circumstances is it ok that he breaks your date? You said he had other ideas. Did he outright refuse to tell the guys sorry?
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KI0159 · 07-20-2011, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by ClipClop

He is selfish. He put you second. Did you tell him under no circumstances is it ok that he breaks your date? You said he had other ideas. Did he outright refuse to tell the guys sorry?
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Well thats other thing that annoyed me - he felt it was no problem to cancel me but I pointed out that he wouldnt have cancelled plans he made with them for me but then I wouldnt ask him to.
He didnt mention anything about telling the guys he wouldnt be going anymore. He stuck to his guns too and won

SunnyT · 07-20-2011, 01:17 PM

I think the nature of your plans is relevant.

If it was to go to Home Depot and pick out patio furniture, or something like that.... then he probably sincerely thought it could be put off with no big deal.

If it was a "date"... out to dinner, or a show or something .... (and I'd think a movie falls under the Home Depot category)... then he should be embarassed and apologize.

ClipClop · 07-20-2011, 01:18 PM

How did he win? Did he say he is going and it is tough if you don't like it?
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KI0159 · 07-20-2011, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by SunnyT

I think the nature of your plans is relevant.

If it was to go to Home Depot and pick out patio furniture, or something like that.... then he probably sincerely thought it could be put off with no big deal.

If it was a "date"... out to dinner, or a show or something .... (and I'd think a movie falls under the Home Depot category)... then he should be embarassed and apologize.

Well no it wasnt a special date as such

it was to go running but he dumped me to play soccer with his friends. The main reason we started running was so we had some sort of hobby to share. I look forward to doing it together

but I still feel as if I've been cast aside.

KI0159 · 07-20-2011, 01:28 PM

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How did he win? Did he say he is going and it is tough if you don't like it?
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No thats not his style (which is why I end up feeling guilty) he just said sorry to me and that he shouldnt have told me today for our plans.

ClipClop · 07-20-2011, 01:35 PM

And then you told him ok, go? If so, this is your lack of boundaries, not his.
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KI0159 · 07-20-2011, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by ClipClop

And then you told him ok, go? If so, this is your lack of boundaries, not his.
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I agree, Im worried im being evil and controlling that I let him do what he wants,

chillymorn · 07-20-2011, 02:35 PM

Do you spend time with your husband doing things?
how much time do you get to spend with your husband?

I think you should have went running by yourself.and then when he asked or you could of just brought it up. you could have a little story of how you and this hot guy you met while running started a little race and you had a great time.He was so funny and quit impressed with how well you kept up.

you might even meet up on a regular basis so you can run together. Oh don't worry honey hes married with 3 kids and his wife just can't be bothered to run with him anymore shes to busy spending time with her girl friends.

COGypsy · 07-20-2011, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by KI0159

No thats not his style (which is why I end up feeling guilty) he just said sorry to me and that he shouldnt have told me today for our plans.

You mean he basically said that he should have been absolutely sure he wasn't going to get a better offer before he made plans with you...???

What would you do if this wasn't your husband? If one of your girlfriends canceled on you all the time? Would you feel like you were evil and controlling if you stood up for yourself with them, or would you just let it slide then too?

KI0159 · 07-20-2011, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by chillymorn

Do you spend time with your husband doing things?
how much time do you get to spend with your husband?

I spend time with him when he can slot me into his friends/sports schedule.
I have to book hime in advance if I want to do anything before his freinds get him. Saying that he was booked tonight and look what happend

We both work full time during the day. I've tried to get us doing things on a Sunday, which does seem to be working. One day woop woop!

KI0159 · 07-20-2011, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by COGypsy

You mean he basically said that he should have been absolutely sure he wasn't going to get a better offer before he made plans with you...???

What would you do if this wasn't your husband? If one of your girlfriends canceled on you all the time? Would you feel like you were evil and controlling if you stood up for yourself with them, or would you just let it slide then too?

I have no backbone

ClipClop · 07-20-2011, 03:11 PM

Get one or get used to this happening for the rest of your life.
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ClipClop · 07-20-2011, 03:12 PM

If he were your bf what would you do?
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