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I just had an idea of listing some of our pet peeves in life that have to do with our interactions with others and how we handle them when they arise. After all...this is a relationship forum...can posts be about relationships with others besides our partners?
Facebook: I hate it when people post some kind of dramatic thing, such as, "I can't believe you would do that to me..." and then never elaborate on what the heck it is they are talking about. It makes me wonder if I may have done something to upset the person, and if it is me they are talking about, how am I supposed to know? I also hate it when people guilt you on there. Like those stupid, "I know only 3.5% of you will repost this...so if you are a caring, loving, truly good friend you will repost this..." I don't know...I kind of lose some respect for people who actually pass that stuff on. Like...how dare you give me a guilt trip and try to control me using guilt like that! I don't have time to repost everything I see like that, and I don't want to pass on a guilt trip either.
Husband: Won't take his dinner dishes into the kitchen. Just leaves it sitting there on the table. I've left it before and not picked it up after him. Still there the next day when I got home from work. WTF? I've said something and it worked for a couple of days then...right back to it. Frustrated....
Kids: Socks...why the heII are there dirty socks everywhere I look? Under the dining room table, under the couch, in the couch, in front of the couch, in front of the television, behind the television, in the kitchen (?!?), on the stairs going upstairs, under the computer desk,...still haven't figured a way to handle this. Bit**ing at them does nothing. I don't know...
I have a lot of pet peeves, most of which I probably need to let go, but Facebook is definitely a huge one for me. My husband and I, thank goodness, both have the same feelings on this. We pretty much have a hatred towards Facebook because of all of the ridiculousness. I know there are plenty of people that aren't crazy with it, but we know so many people that are obsessed.
We actually have family members that can't be away from their phones for a minute because they constantly have to check their phone for updates. They'll even invite us over and then spend the entire time posting on Facebook or reading messages. My husband and I are thinking about installing a device in our home that will kill cell phone reception in and around the home so we don't have to deal with it when they come over. Is that going to far?
I also get a kick out of people that are so proud of how many friends they have on facebook. We've had to help our family members move several times and when they talk about this, I want to ask why none of those "friends" are sweating their a*s off helping.
But the worst one is that so many people set up these fake lives on Facebook. Several people I know post all of these inspirational messages and talk about how their husbands and children are the light of the world and yada, yada, yada. In real life, they spend almost every minute of the day complaining about their husbands and screaming at their kids.
I just don't get it, and the more I see of it, the more I want to hunt down the creators of Facebook and cause them physical harm. I know that I don't need to judge the venue for all of the crazy people, but it's really hard. Of course, hearing all of the horror stories about Facebook ruining marriages doesn't help either.
Wow! Sorry for the long rant. I guess I really needed to get that off my chest.
Preachers who constantly tell others they need to give all their money to the church. And then say something stupid like God will love you for it. Well guess what He loves you if you don't give one red cent.
Grrrrr...
-People who don't thank you after you've held the door open for them
-People who drive slowly...in the left lane
-Hearing a song you like on the radio but... it's at the very end
-Finding the perfect dress/jeans/shoe but it's not in your size
-Delayed/cancelled flights
-The DMV *it's so slow
-Snack machines where you snack gets stuck on the way out
-Calling anywhere that you will hear Press 1 for...Press 2 for... Press 3 for... and then they never even tell you what option you need! Then someone gets on the line, makes you give them info, puts you on hold for 5-7 minutes and the next person asks you the same series of questions!
-That summer always feels too short
I just had an idea of listing some of our pet peeves in life that have to do with our interactions with others and how we handle them when they arise. After all...this is a relationship forum...can posts be about relationships with others besides our partners?
Facebook: I hate it when people post some kind of dramatic thing, such as, "I can't believe you would do that to me..." and then never elaborate on what the heck it is they are talking about. It makes me wonder if I may have done something to upset the person, and if it is me they are talking about, how am I supposed to know? I also hate it when people guilt you on there. Like those stupid, "I know only 3.5% of you will repost this...so if you are a caring, loving, truly good friend you will repost this..." I don't know...I kind of lose some respect for people who actually pass that stuff on. Like...how dare you give me a guilt trip and try to control me using guilt like that! I don't have time to repost everything I see like that, and I don't want to pass on a guilt trip either.
Husband: Won't take his dinner dishes into the kitchen. Just leaves it sitting there on the table. I've left it before and not picked it up after him. Still there the next day when I got home from work. WTF? I've said something and it worked for a couple of days then...right back to it. Frustrated....
Kids: Socks...why the heII are there dirty socks everywhere I look? Under the dining room table, under the couch, in the couch, in front of the couch, in front of the television, behind the television, in the kitchen (?!?), on the stairs going upstairs, under the computer desk,...still haven't figured a way to handle this. Bit**ing at them does nothing. I don't know...
We have the same sock problem. It's not as bad in the summer when they usually wear sandals but when the weather is cooler, socks can be everywhere. I'm tempted to install a fine system. Every time I have to pick up socks they have to pay me $.05 or something. But I'd have to get separate socks for my older boys to wear (right now they are the same size so they interchange their clothes) so I could tell the difference. Or I could fine them both and make more money.
1. Whistlers get on my nerves, irritates me to no end, I don't care if they are happy , I just want to get away from these men, whether it be in a store, at a party, can't stand it.
2. When others are very quick to judge -without mentaliy putting themselvs in anothers shoes. Black & white thinking.
3. Email "Forwards" are a complete waste of my time, delete is my response.
4. Facebook - anything where you have to give "permission" to get an answer, never done this once, seems an incredible hassle .
5. People who talk NON STOP to the point you want to go crawl under the nearest rock.
6. I could list a bucketload of things that annoy me in church. Prosperity gospel teachings (agree with 4sure), being taught you will be healed if you "have enough faith", How some seem to WORSHIP Holiness - appreciate scriptures like this one
Quote:
Luke 18:10 “Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee, standing by himself, prayed thus: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his house justified, rather than the other. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”
7. People who live carelessly , wrecklessly , find themselves in a MESS , then complain it was someone else's fault!
8. People who carelessly waste food, this bothers me to no end, I could never work in a school cafeteria.
9. When you are in line at the Grocery store & the Clerk is engaged talking to someone not doing her job, or if she is as slow as a turtle.
10. Hair dressers who lack the social skills to carry on conversation while doing your hair.
11. Teens (generally) glued to their cell phones who have lost the respect to look at someone when they are being talked too.
13.. Mega slow drivers, they should pull off the darn road if they want to go 15 miles per hour on a 35mph road where I can't pass them. This causes me to swear .
14. Parents who don't discipline thier children & they are boundaryless monsters in public.
15. When others are offended if I don't agree with them, or they feel they are better than me -just cause I think differently on an issue.
16. People who smell like a dog when you get near their face because they do not brush their teeth enough.
17. People who are habitually late & hold things up.
18. I DESPISE electric windows on cars, I prefer winders, one less thing to break & husband has to spend $$ & time fixing, noone should be this lazy, can not stand how the vehicle has to be turned ON to get the window up & down, who ever intvented those should be shot.
19. When waitresses call me "Hun" or similar . Never liked this.
20. People who turn the BASS up full blast in their cars and you can feel the vibration when they are going past.
21. Dirty floors at home. I can live with a little dust, but I need a clean floor.
22. All the stuff the school sends home expecting your children to sell.
23. Paranoid people, everything you say, they take it personal or feel someone is against them.
24. On my answering machine, I ask for a detailed message, hate when they just say "its me, call me back". I want to know why I am calling back .
25. People who swear every other sentence. I can handle a little for the sake of showing some intensity but geeeze some need soap in thier mouths.
26. Homeschooling - IF the reason is parents fear their children will be corrupted or led astray because others are taught a variety of world views in school. It starts at home after all, I do not fear these things at all.
27. Automated phone messages when you just want the darn Representative when you call.
- People who think they have it so bad, but really don't have a clue how good they have it. I know it's all relative, and I have it much better than some. But when I'm arguing with the school special edu people on how to handle my autistic son banging his head and having meltdowns, I can't really sympathize with a coworker that had to take off work to go get her grandson's backpack monogrammed. (The grandson is 8 months old)
-FB drama. If you don't have anything to post, don't make something more than it is, just because you need the attention.
- chain emails
- people that turn arguments around...gaslighting
- when someone asks you how you're doing, you start to say something, and they interrupt to tell you their problems.
- elder fraud
- strangers that stare. My son may be autistic, but you're just being rude. And it really pisses me off that it's usually adults staring instead of children. Adults should know better.
- anyone living in the house that doesn't help with housework.
I can't stand when people talk during videos, movies, classes, etc. I've been in school for over 20 years and it really started bugging me in college and then when I went to grad school, I couldn't STAND it. Now I work in an in-patient drug and alcohol rehabilitation facility and I teach classes and conduct groups and I can't tell you how frustrating and annoying it is when my clients talk and cross-talk during everything.
Fiance- Laughing after a joke he makes. I know it's a nervous habit but it doesn't make it any less annoying. Probably other things too that I can't think of at the moment.
Parents- Fighting over the stupidest ****. Picking at each other and saying cutting remarks to each other in front of other people. Awkwarddddddddddddddd.
Clients- EVERYTHING. haha I guess if I had to choose one, though, their sense of entitlement. Where the hell does that come from? Who do you think you are? Trauma in your life does not excuse you from being considerate and a productive member of society.
1. People who get p.o.'d at me, then pull the "no-speak" game and I get the silent treatment. Just tell me WTF the problem is, okay? Let's get past it all ... jeesh!
2. People who post EVERY SINGLE DAY on Facebook about the most moronic stuff: "I have a new cluster of red peppers in my garden - time to add more manure to the tomatoes." I mean, please - TMI!! I don't have a burning desire to know when you took your last BM, okay?
3. People who collect friends on Facebook. Oh yeah, right ... like we all know someone who has over 500 friends. Uh-huh.
4. My hairdresser: she's a great stylist, but is a dimwit. I mentioned hiking the Appalachian Trail through Skyline Drive, and she said, "Where's that?" Hey, we ARE in southeast PA - it's only in VA!!! I guess anything other than here and the Jersey Shore are lost on this kid!
5. People who flip me the bird when they do something illegal while driving. I had someone make an illegal U-turn in front of me, so I slowed down to let them do their thing - the passenger flipped me off. HUH?????
6. Paula Deen and her incessant use of "YA'LL." Okay, Paula, we know you are from GA. But do you have to layer it on so thick??? I think she embellishes the accent. To the point I no longer watch her show, YA'LL.
7. BA-BA-BOOM BA BOOM BA-BA-BOOM BA BOOM. Yes, I so love having my car's dashboard shake while you "listen" to that wonderful sound in YOUR car. Or those who crank up their favorite song on the radio so they can share it with the masses.
8. Being in the presence of drunks. I can't get away from them fast enough. Get my tab, pay for my beer, and get the heck outta Dodge.
9. Dirty and/or messy homes. So pick up or sort through your clutter already. Better yet - toss the sh** in the trash because it's been on your desk in your to-do pile for about a year!
10. "Like" and "you know?". Ever tried to listen to someone speak who interjects "like" into every sentence they speak? I have, and it got to the point that I had to move out on roommate and her 17-year-old daughter who, like, couldn't speak without, like, being, "He's so, like, lame..." AAARRRRGGGHHH!
- People who think they have it so bad, but really don't have a clue how good they have it. I know it's all relative, and I have it much better than some. But when I'm arguing with the school special edu people on how to handle my autistic son banging his head and having meltdowns, I can't really sympathize with a coworker that had to take off work to go get her grandson's backpack monogrammed. (The grandson is 8 months old)
This is a good one, you are absolutely right. Many of us loose site of how blessed we are, we take things for granted so easily. I have a friend with 2 autistic children, I have learned so very much from her, it would be very very difficult, and few can really understand, her son had a wrap around for years off & on, many calls from the school, fighting for his acceptance in things.
She does a fine fine job, I am afraid I would never handle it as well -if I was in her shoes . God bless you Moms & Dads!
Kool-aid drinkers, regardless of the political affiliation. If you are going to preach to me about the evils of a political party, please do your homework and don't regurgitate empty rhetoric.
Obnoxious Grocery Shoppers: Guess what? The stupid grin doesn't make me feel better about the fact that you have 53 different TV dinners in the 6-item-or-less express lane. More cleavage would, though.
DMV Employees: If you start out with a frown, or a smart-alec comment, I'm going to make this your worst. work. day. ever. Trust me, its the only enjoyment I get out of the experience, especially after watching you insult the elderly woman before me. And I'll sleep like a baby tonight, too.
Airport Security Patdowns: Well, it tickled, and I just ate beans with my taco. What did ya think was going to happen?
Some new Wonder Glue in a tube: Did your marketing people think about the fact that if bonds anything, that includes the cap to the glue? And how about making it not glue skin?
IRS: An acronym for "How to Get a Raise and Make Less Money".
Wal-mart Customer Paradox: Rise in obesity occurring with the trend for tighter clothes and more exposed skin.
City Driver Paradox: The smaller the penis, the bigger the truck.
I have metal screws in my leg older than most people that I have zero interest in hearing the self righteous opinions of. What annoys me more than anything is certainty.
--"ATM machine," "PIN number," etc. What does the "M" in "ATM" stand for again? So why are you effectively saying, "Automated teller machine machine?"
--As mentioned by someone else, more than the max items in the express lane. I long for the day that a cash register company markets a register that automatically totals and requires payment when the programmer item max is reached. You've got 15 items in a 10-or-less lane? Guess what, sparky...you get to make two transactions.
--Don't call me then immediately ask me if I can hold. You called me, so you should have been prepared to talk to me. Posted via Mobile Device
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