07-22-2011, 03:24 AM
Join Date: Jun 2011
| | Re: What to look out for if she moves back in
Well the MC has asked us to put down our expectations and hopes and what we want in our marriage.
We sat in the house for a day and worked on them and talked them through and they were mostly support, trust, putting each other first etc.
However, it's not really possible to work on these while meeting up for an hour a week.
It's my idea for her to move back. There is a chance that being together, while we both know now that there are communication issues, may help us resolve them and get us back to dating and maybe in a few months we'll get ok again.
However, if she does not move back then I've already said that I'm not waiting around for months on end. If she moves back and it's not working out then we'll call a halt to it and both move on.
I see this as our best chance at making it work, but there are no guarantees.
I'm putting myself at risk again but it couldn't be as bad as what happened 7/8 weeks ago and I got over that.
It's not a case of 'letting her move back in'. She would rather stay away for a few months to see if she still has the love, but to be honest she won't find that on her own and I know that I won't have any respect/trust/love for her if this continues much longer. It's crunch time. She moves back and we work at it, or she's gone and I'm my own man again.
I'm not 1 bit upset at that though. I'm preparing for the worst, hoping for the best.