Originally Posted by AFEH
What are her reasons for ending the marriage?
She said that she does not love me anymore. She has emotionally checked out of the marriage. she was crying and saying that she is heartbroken and wished that she thought about me in "that way".
She said that she can't move back home as she thinks she will never think about me like that again and is not willing to put herself or myself through the process when she said that her heart would not be in it.
She said that she would end up moving back out after a few days.
She stayed for 2 days at the weekend but said it was really tough for her and her feelings were even less than they were at the time of initial leaving.
I think now we need to have the time apart. Do nothing rash. Try to heal and move on and I'll go to my own consellor.
I look back on my 9 year marriage with great pride. I loved it. We did alot and we had so much fun. It's such a pity she is not into it any more, but I can't do much about it.
I'm really upset that I never got the chance to work on it properly together as she never moved back in.
Anyway, I know that time heals these wounds and I bear her no ill will. She was also very upset and I'm suer she blames herself, but there was 2 of us in this marriage so it's both our faults.
Anyway, I'm come to work today but I'm struggling. I need to grieve I think. I may take some time off.
Thanks all again.