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post #136 of 800 (permalink) Old 11-03-2015, 10:27 AM Thread Starter
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Re: Wife is behaving weird. Need some input

I still love her,we have been together 45 years,married 42 of them,
I just want to know what is going on,why it is going on and how do we fix it. I don't want to "s**t can this relationship if it can be fixed. I will do whatever it takes.
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How long are you going to snoop?
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For sure until her next "Lunch",and it should be soon if my guess is close,she has been letting me know when this happens,I will be there but she won't know it. Loaded for bear with audiovisual gear,
That OP is confirmed, planning is almost complete.
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Deguello - just to be clear - you're not going to be crawling on the restaurant floor dressed in a ghillie jacket, are you?
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No,I will be hiding in plain sight,already in place,I'm not trying to make a 1000 meter shot,

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No,I will be hiding in plain sight,already in place,I'm not trying to make a 1000 meter shot,
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The PI.was able to gather some Intel I didn't have,but so far nothing incriminating. What he said was I "can't find anything that would be
Suspect,we need to catch them together"
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Stop trying to draw her out (ie dressing in bathroom), AMAP let her feel at ease.


Does your PI have software to copy her laptop hardrive like on NCIS?

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I'll ask about the software,what is AMAP?,I'M not sure what you mean,make her feel ease?
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Keep in mind we have been married over Four Decades,I walked into OUR bedroom,and caught her in just her panties,If looks could kill,I be a dead man. She said"Can't you knock?"and she tried to cover her self,My reply was "It's my bedroom too and the door was open, and. I have seen you naked before,we are married why are you trying to hide your body from me.I got the silent treatment and a frigid attitude. that is more than weird!!
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Keep in mind we have been married over Four Decades,I walked into OUR bedroom,and caught her in just her panties,If looks could kill,I be a dead man. She said"Can't you knock?"and she tried to cover her self,My reply was "It's my bedroom too and the door was open, and. I have seen you naked before,we are marraied why are you trying to hide your body from me.I got the silent treatment and a frigid attitude. that is more than weird!!
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Deguello,

My guess, she does not want you to see her because sexually she belongs to someone else and wants to be "loyal" to that person.

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TAMAT, is "affair" the only place your mind can go? I've been away from the boards a bit and don't remember any previous interaction with you, but in the couple of posts we've hit together, you are just sure of affairs in all of them. Just an observation.

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Degullo, I read your initial post and have followed a bit. I'm hoping that her hiding her body is just her insecurities. No telling where they come from sometimes with us ladies. They can crop up at odd times. If that's the case, its on her to work through it. Since you nor your PI has come up with anything (yet) I remain optimistic that your lady is just dealing with her own issues at the moment.
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... Since you nor your PI has come up with anything (yet) I remain optimistic that your lady is just dealing with her own issues at the moment.
I share your optimism, but it is strange behavior after more than forty years. I've been married that long and it would sure have me wondering.

Deguello, is it possible that she has done some "grooming" that she doesn't want you to see?

My wife recently started that, but thankfully she's been showing it off.
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IDK sounds like she considers you an interloper that she does not like or respect.

Perhaps it's time to push back. Would you feel comfortable saying this the next time she says something of that nature, "this is my house too and I can walk anywhere I please. If you have a problem with that, you are free to get a lock installed on the guess room door and dress in there. Otherwise, that's the last time I want to hear you use that tone with me or say that to me"

Say it in a pleasant tone, with respect. You have been nice enough to offer her two solutions to her problem, neither of which involves disrespect. It like dealing with a two year old having a tantrum, give them boundaries with the freedom to choose among alternatives that don't include lack of control.

It's admirable that you love her and want to stay married but does that mean that you will stay at any cost?

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