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post #91 of 800 (permalink) Old 10-19-2015, 02:55 PM
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Re: Wife is behaving weird. Need some input

Yup.

If you wanted to actually know what she's up to, you'd know by now.

So any advice anyone gives you is moot, because you're shooting in the dark and don't want to act.

So act.

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Re: Wife is behaving weird. Need some input

Actually, I'm almost ready to put the last few pieces of this puzzle together, I've got some UC work to do,and I'll know pretty much what is or is not going on,the VORs I planted were productive,I know more about my in-laws,more than I really want to know,but what you get is what you get.I'm just going to leave the VORS in place for a while.
We did have a long talk and we did clear up a major point of confusion for me,She has no clue what I'm doing,confrontation is still not immediate.
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You are correct,there was some concern about WHAT was or was not going on,this is a 45 year relationship,not to be just dumped.
She stood by me when I was having some issues,I'm. Going to wait until I have everything "in place" and pretty confident I know what exactly is going on. And then we will deal with "IT".We will get thru this"
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Re: Wife is behaving weird. Need some input

Sounds like you already have your mind made up, no matter what happens and that you don't really need our advice anymore.
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You are correct,there was some concern about WHAT was or was not going on,this is a 45 year relationship,not to be just dumped.
She stood by me when I was having some issues,I'm. Going to wait until I have everything "in place" and pretty confident I know what exactly is going on. And then we will deal with "IT".We will get thru this"
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Put together your hard, physical evidence.

Set up your game plan.

Set aside a time and place where it is just you and her alone with no distractions.

Lay the evidence out on the table in front of her and let her explain

Then follow through...

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Backup multiple copies of all evidence in different places.

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Re: Wife is behaving weird. Need some input

what pieces are coming together?

what do you know? What do you suspect you know?
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what pieces are coming together?

what do you know? What do you suspect you know?
Do tell... What is happening?
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What I don't know is that at least the one time that I was able to witness it,as soon as they were BOTH at the place where they have lunch,they went in,they were seated outside,they ordered and lunch came in "To Go" boxes,at which point they both got into her car,the (OW). then they drove away,I assume to her place because I was pulled over by local PD.who said I had a light out,not true,but I lost them in traffic,when they returned, they sat in her car for 30 minutes. Then they both got out,they embraced and kissed and they both went on thier way.I don't Think it was ever an EA. After we had dinner,my wife asked me to get something out of her car,while I was. Getting her keys out of her purse,I saw a pair of black panties stuffed into the bottom, Never in 42 years have I found. Her panties in her purse. I know that they were the ones she put on earlier that day Either she was fooling around or she is trying to get a reaction out of me.any thoughts?

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What kind of kiss was it?
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post #101 of 800 (permalink) Old 10-20-2015, 07:36 PM
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Degullo,

Doing a good job keeping cool, what you don't want to do is tip your hand before you have ironclad evidence. You will get years and years of minimization and denial if you do. You've waited this long for your answers you can wait a month or too longer.

In the meanwhile line up a polygraph operator to test your W.

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IIWY, I'd pack up all my stuff one day when she's gone, move out, and just leave a note: He can have you.
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I really couldn't tell if they tongue wrestling and trading spit,but they somewhere for the best part of two hours,and thirty minutes in a car,my imagination could go a long way with that
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With Respect,
He would be a She,so far,beside what started this whole conversation,
I have some audio clips,one side of the conversations,a picture of what might be a lovers kiss in a parking lot two hours unaccounted for
And thirty minutes in a parked car,and a pair of black panties in a purse. It would A tactical mistake To play my hands NOW.
I really appreciate your input,but I still the one in the middle of this
Situation.
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Ok.

So what's your plan?

How much evidence is enough?
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