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post #121 of 800 (permalink) Old 10-23-2015, 10:43 PM Thread Starter
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Re: Wife is behaving weird. Need some input

I hired a PI today,I am supposed to let him know when the next lunch is supposed to happen.and where, I gave him copies of what I have,he said it was good info,but to easy for her to explain away,
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The investigation continues,she thinks she found my VAR's,got really HOT about me "snooping" when she played the "tapes" back she had to apologize,they were old VAR tape machines,and had nothing on them of value.the digital models have been almost in plain sight.the next lunch has yet to happen,they have not set a date yet.
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Well if she knows you've placed VARs then she's not going to expose herself by stupidly saying or doing anything that she knows is going to be recorded.
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She is not aware of the other VAR's in place,they're secure,the one she found was a DECOY, But I do agree with you,but I pretty confident that she'll make a mistake
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Was the decoy deliberate? Why would you lay out a decoy?

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post #126 of 800 (permalink) Old 10-31-2015, 12:51 PM Thread Starter
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,It wasn't even in the house,it was on my workbench in the garage,it was an old model that uses audio tape,she went out to "wash clothes"
And that story is WGBS"weapons Grade Bulls**t if she was just washing clothes,she would have her back to my workbench!,so she was snooping,by mutual agreement that is a Nono. She was mortified when she listened to it,was not what she thought.
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Re: Wife is behaving weird. Need some input

Why did you have an old Var to begin with? What was on it?

Seems odd she didn't listen first,
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I used to use the VARS to tape meeting,so I could type the minutes when I got home,and to make. Notes while I was driving, kind of an audio journal.
Listening with out me present would have violated our privacy agreement that was made years ago. She insisted on playing it,I told her what it was.She read a written journal of mine while we were in CC,and then ripped me a me new one,for stuff I had written, the MC told her that that personal journals were private.and not ever read them .

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I used to use the VARS to tape meeting,so I could type the minutes when I got home,and to make. Notes while I was driving, kind of an audio journal.
Listening with out me present would have violated our privacy agreement that was made years ago. She insisted on playing it,I told her what it was.She read a written journal of mine while we were in CC,and then ripped me a me new one,for stuff I had written, the MC told her that that personal journals were private.and not ever read them .

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I record all my business meetings too.

Yeah she's paranoid you have found something on her. Guilty people act guilty, that is why she is so pissed at you.

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I like to write stories(fiction).she would come into our office.and i would close the page I'm typing on usually because I was done,she thought I was hiding porn,Most of the time I'm writing in my Journal or writing a story,either way no one reads my Journal or a story I'm writing,she always thinks I'm hiding something.
She has been trying to get me out of the house a lot lately,"Go see your Dad,""Don't you have some work to do at the church"(I'm the Janitor),"Are you going to be working nights any night shifts next week?"
Fairly innocent questions.If my gut was not screaming somethings wrong here.
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So:

You've never met this woman.

You've never seen a picture of her either.

Your wife took a picture of YOU to show this woman.

How many years have you been married? You say you are in your sixties. So have you been married for 30-40 years; and in the last 5 your wife starts to undress in the bathroom. Is that right?

Ask your wife today to see a picture of her friend. Say, "she's seen what I look like, so I want to see what she looks like" Your wife should have no problem doing that.
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Oddly enough she could not find a picture of the OW on her phone/I find that really strange,I'm guessing it is on her laptop,but she could show me the Pic she took of me.
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Deguello,

Your WW has given you the perfect setup the catch her, she was asking you about when you would be away, perhaps you can go "fishing" every week on the same day/time. This will allow her to put her cheating on a schedue.

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So have you got anything new so far?
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Nothing that is going to make a lot of difference, but I had to work tonight,we'll see what the VAR has to say in the morning.I did tell bow I feel when she hides her body from me,her response was" it's how I was raised,WGBS",this did not start until 2010.
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post #135 of 800 (permalink) Old 11-03-2015, 03:29 AM
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What is your end goal here? Do you want your wife back and things to go back to the way they were, or do you just want to know the truth so you can protect yourself?

Your actions in the meantime will need to be different in both scenarios.
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