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post #1 of 800 (permalink) Old 10-07-2015, 03:20 PM Thread Starter
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We are both in our early 60's,our sex life until 2010 was actually pretty good,we averaged 1,2 per week.In 2010 it dropped to 1x per month MAYBE,at the same time she reconnected with female classmate.
They began "having lunch" once or twice a month,I did not have an issue with this,right away. Lunch would last two to three hours.

When this woman would call,my wife would race outside or back to the bedroom until she was finished with the conversation,I thought this was "odd".
When. I asked when we were going to have dinner,socialize,I was told in a hostile manner,"That was not going to happen,ever!" and she has been very defensive about it since then.I still have not met either one of these people.and it has been 5 years
Am I not seeing something.any suggestions? Advice


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Re: Wife is behaving weird. Need some input

I think I would insist on meeting this person. No reason for her to be so secretive that would be good.

If she is adamant that you not meet her, then you have a decision to make. I think I would follow her or have her followed and see what she is up to.
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Are you sure that this person is a female?
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Are you sure that this person is a female?
Exactly. Or long lost lesbian lover wannabe?

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Re: Wife is behaving weird. Need some input

I know a guy whose wife left him for a woman, same exact scenario.

She denied being gay despite repeated questioning and confrontation, until the day she announced she was leaving him to be with this other woman.

There's very little doubt that in this situation, we're looking at a lesbian couple.

A VAR in the bedroom would remove any remaining doubt.
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Re: Wife is behaving weird. Need some input

As far as I can tell,it is a woman
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As far as I can tell,it is a woman
Usually it's not that hard to distinguish, although I've done a few double takes in my time.
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Another possibility is that they are having "My husband is such a PRI-CK" conversations....That knocked a hole in my sex life a few years back....Are the other girls divorced, or not happily married?....Wife's GF's husband was cheating.....I paid for it....Get a good VAR....
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.I still have not met either one of these people.and it has been 5 years
there are two people? or just the one 'lady'?

yeah, secret friends are usually secret for a reason

might not be anything more than your wife badmouths you to this friend, and doesn't want you two to meet and compare notes

call this secret friend up and ask her to a dinner party...tell her it's a surprise for your wife.
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Maybe they're imaginary friends.

It happens.

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I have not met this woman as far as I know,my wife took a pic of me on her phone,she has NEVER done that before or since,so she may know what I look like. She also dresses/Undresses in the bathroom,has done so since 2010,she say. That is how she was raised.
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It is hard to tell,the other couple have been married 40+years,What is a VAR.?
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Do you have friends that you see independent of your wife? Do you have interests that you share with a group of friends that have nothing to do with your wife? If not, you should cultivate interest and activities that are independent of your wife. Find something that you are passionate about. Also, meet up with your guy friends regularly for sports or cards or just hang out for drinks.

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It is hard to tell,the other couple have been married 40+years,What is a VAR.?
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It's a Voice Activated Recorder

You can get them at Best Buy. I believe they are about $70. Well worth the money to find out what your wife and her friend are really talking about.

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Oh boy.


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