Petal

Sorry to anyone who responded to this thread, I was deleting past threads and clicked the wrong box,,

truth be told I actually found everyone's advice very helpful, and it's sad to think I've actually known for some time that he was not interested but hoping he would change his mind and yes I have co dependency problems, has kept me in the relationship longer then I should had been. Hence why I stayed with losers, in the past,

From memory of that last two people who responded

"all you do is watch tv and and watch your guy play video games, what exactly are you afraid to loose?"

Good point,

Also the last one to respond asked a few questions,, lets see

no I don't' expect him to entertain me, but I don't expect to go see my guy and then he leaves me on the couch, and makes no contact with me, and shows no interest in me being there, if you want me to go, just say so,, also I do alot of things without him, I work, clean, walk, hang out with friends, watch movies, and so on, so I deff don't need hm for the entertainment part,,

I kind of rather not go into detail but yes he has done something to cause me to mistrust him, lets just put it short, he changed his profile information to he was interested in dating, and that he was in a complicated relationship but we weren't, we actually were doing really well and happy together, so he went behind my back to find another GF, Yes I know that should had been warning lights right there

as for the upset that he was using me for sex and now I am upset he's not,, No you got that all messed up,, or maybe I just didn't explain it right,, I was not upset that I felt he was using me for sex, at least I had some kind of affection, attention, and at that time he wanted to hang out with me, so I felt like a gf but lately it seems that I feel to be a burden, even though he don't do anything,, but now it's lack of attention, lack of affection, no sexual interest,, and he still wants to keep the "Relationship" status, when we should just call it like it is,, "Friends" who knows maybe he has co dependency as well,, but I know I am getting sick of feeling this way.. I want someone who makes me happy and loves to be around me, and so much more. so No not upset so much about the lack of sex as I am about the lack of affection and attention that goes with being in a relationship,

yes I know I need to stop going after losers, and believe me I could die happy if I found a guy with a job who actually treated me lovely,, but co dependency is a hard thing to fight, but it's something I need to fight, and get on track, yes I do have low self esteem, yes I deserve better, and hopefully one day I will find better,,

I am tired of him dragging me along, he acts not interested then the next day he can be all loveable. We were fighting and then a few days later he said he can see us lasting a long time, and then a few days later he's distant (I know he is bi polar, so this might be part of the deal) but sorry to say,, it's driving me nuts with his constant love you one day, don't love you the next,,

so once again to everyone thanks for your input, and advice, but I now know what I need to do,, besides dump him, I am gonna get my life in order, already looking for work, I am taking better care of myself, and going out to events and enjoying life, knowing I can be perfectly content in being single,