Hi I've only been married a couple of years but already think it was a massive mistake I have 3 children from previous 2 with learning disability and 2 with current toddler and baby love all my kids to death but hunt seems to struggle a lot he knows wats what with my 2 older children and how they are but he constantly puts them down and slagging them off to there faces cruel name calling and of course I jump to there defence and get a load of nasty and upsetting name calling he is generally controlling I cannot seem to have an opinion on any thing then wen 2 little ones are demanding in a day he moans that he doesn't get any time to himself bear in mind I take them everywhere with me even in school run in morning while he stays home and gets himself ready seems he just wants to be daddy wen it suits just feel so down and depressed dunno what to do
Huh? Why are you angry at a perfectly reasonable request?
We can't sift through one giant run-on sentence.
Please punctuate.
I would like to respond, but can't make heads or tails of this loooooooooong sentence. Remember, you are not texting here. Rather, typing in a forum where most grammatical rules apply .
Ok there r plenty uv other forums that u can find where peeps don't really care about grammar or punctuation sorry but its very difficult to sift through when ur coming on here to truly help someone but they want to snipe i can assure u we would all like to help but its really hard i wish you the very best finding solutions
Now, I'll assume this behavior didn't just start because that changes things. If it did please correct me.
You knew this guy didn't treat your older two that well and married him anyway
You then had a child with him and knew that not only did he not treat your older two well but he didn't lift a finger to help and what was your response? Have another one by him.
At some point you've got to take responsibility for the choices you made, which were irresponsible. I remarried with two kids and priority number one was my kids. .... if they'd been treated poorly I'd have kicked hubby to the curb.
Now decide what you can live with, and please stop having children until you get this resolved. And you know what? Your older two will remember that you married and stayed with a guy who treated them like crap.
If the behavior just started I take it all back. Posted via Mobile Device
Seen how most ppl judged my first post is just wrong, there was no need to be rude and say stop having kids you cannot say that.
I love my children and came on Here for a bit of advice, as for my grammar I'm sorry I'm not very good at writing and putting full stops et but I try my best.
I was probably just writing it down as it was in my head so I didn't miss any thing out
Lifeistooshort yes you are right it has only just started with the remarks to the older kids
Wolf1974 I don't see how your remark about having kids with unreasonable men actually helps my first 3 children's father died so thanks for your understanding he wasn't unreasonable.
Evo, I just want clarification and then we can all go from there
1. how many children do you have in total and their ages?
2. How many with disabilities?
3. How many fathers/ex husbands involved with children?
4. Does your current H work full time and support all of you?
5. Do you work at all or are you a house wife?
6. Do you have anyone/can you find anyone to assist you with the children with disabilities?
7. Would you say your current H is abusive to the children? Do they understand?
8. When he comes home, does he have any 'me time' or is the home always in disarray/noisy, etc (it happens)
People are not being rude, many here spend a lot of their free time replying to people here and do not have time to clarify posts, that is all. Whilst I can understand writing may not be your forte, do write in such a way that it is easy to understand for others, that is all, do not be offended. We are here to help.
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