Re: Priority in marriage: children or spouse?
Your wife and all that Catering has destroyed your son, he appears to be sucking up to being dependent on Mommy. I feel bad if he ever meets a woman and has to deal with your wife, MIL interference issues will abound. I don't know his real issues, but even if he did have some underlying mental things going on, he probably wouldn't be as depressed if he had a tougher approach to parenting and was made to "get out there & do for himself" or suffer the consequences of his own slothfullness. This is NEEDED to raise kids responsibly. Not having any sort of job by age 27, this just shouldn't be, and this is the college bound son?. . He couldn't have taken a lower paying job ? No matter how scare the good jobs are, the lower paying ones can easily be had with some persistence & effort.
She did it ALL WRONG- but you allowed her to do it, your comment here is the truth "I always thought that if you took care of your marriage then the children would just follow along".
I have 6 kids, my husband comes before all of them. I was guilty , however , of putting them before him at one time, we had 5 in 9 yrs, just wasn't thinking. We are much happier now, he is much happier with my change on this.
Your wife should be wanting to come to your company apartment, showing she has TIME for you, that you are still loved, valued for more than your paycheck.
No intimacy for 3 yrs. Why do you stay ? The kids are grown now.