08-12-2011, 04:17 PM
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| | Re: Help I am maried to a compulsive liar
Originally Posted by magic
She admits she has a problem but does not want to do anything about it. When we have discussed this issue she said she feels no guilt and does not care how this has affected me. We have had discussions about ending our marriage but she says she wants to stay in the relationship but can not promise she won't lie in the future.
You've got your answer. I am only guessing here, but it sounds like your stress may come from your fear to end the marriage. After all, she does have her good points. On the other hand, it's more than the mere lying that would bother me; it's the fact that she DOES NOT CARE that it's hurting you and causing you major stress.
I see her lack of empathy for you to be a far more compelling reason to leave than just her lying. It's the way she operates, and she doesn't care to change it. Apparently, she is telling you that you are not worth the effort for her to make the change. That, in itself, would make me want to leave.
I refuse to make anyone a priority in my life who considers me nothing more than an option.
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