So, my marriage isn't exactly what you would call "happy". We both have some issues that cause things to be kind of difficult at times. There are talks of splitting frequently, fights, sex is down to about once a month and he hasn't been able to "finish" the last several times. (He used to be pretty quick with it and we have only been married a year) all in all, I consider, and assumed he does too, that our relationship is one blow up or screw up away from done. This morning at 3 am as he is getting ready to kiss me goodbye and leave for work, he got a text. I thought that's prob my bro in law who sometimes gets a ride. I asked him who it was, casually of course because it was really just an impulse question since there really was only 1 person that I thought it could be. Wrong. It's his friend from work. A female. "Gay" well, "complete dike" was the description he gave me, who he has given a ride home from work to in the rain. So he gave her his number so he could give her a ride I guess all the time, or whenever she needs, she has no car, so if she needs him to carry her, I'm guessing he's the only 1 who is. They do work the same shift. He immediately told me that he would never do anything abd that he loves me more than anything forever and that she is gay and her gf works there too and thwt he will tell her that he can't give her a ride anymore, blah blah blah. So I continue to try and explain why I'm not ok with this, and how I feel and how it makes me feel for thus to have happened, and for him to have not told me, etc. I then find out its a girl that he has talked about a few times. The ONLY girl that I recall him speaking about by name. Am I wrong for being NOT ok with this?? He quickly switched to telling me how crazy and effed up that I am and how redic I am and he talked to my sister and bro in law about it and told me how my sister just laughed about the fact that I would think that he would do anything with thst girl, etc. First of all, is what I am feeling just me? Am I wrong here? And whether I am or I am not, what do I do now? I don't know where to go from here, I don't even know what to say to him. Please help.
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