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Hi, my story is so long. I met my husband chating 4 years ago, we got married almost a year ago. He is from USA and I'm from Costa Rica. He has been living here with me until recently that he left for a couple months to visit his 2 kids from previous marriage and dad. He is supposed to come back this Friday. Yesterday he said he will come and will leave again because his dad has a health condition and since his son is living with his dad, he doesn't want to leave him alone. Fine I understand that but he works from home and now also says he will look for a real job with a better pay. (The job he currently has allows him to work in CR since its from home and he doesn't have papers but pay is good for CR standars not USA). So I've been upset thinking he is going to abandon me here. Today he said he isn't even coming back this Friday because he already got a job and will continue doing part time on the one he currently has for same pay. He asks if I'm happy for him, he says we will be economically better than ever since I also got a new job here but of course I'm not happy, not the right way to do things, he didn't even ask me. How can I believe when he says he misses me and loves me when he couldn't even make his first day a week after to be able to come here at least and see me after those 2 months we have been appart since we got married. I feel I hate him for doing that to me. I don't have papers and don't want and won't be there illegal. I just cry and cry and I talk to him with so much anger. I haven't tell him I love hin in the last 3 days, I don't feel it anymore, whatever was there, he managed to kill it. Even if he comes this Friday I won't be happy, I'm hurt his dad and son won over the new wife. I deserve so much better, I was a good person, ignored all the signs I got to not marry him (first time he missed his flight to come here and we couldn't get married, second time lawyer had a problem with computer and couldnt marry us on the day we had planned it). It's 4am in the morning here, I haven't sleep, my eyes are all swallow and red and I just keep crying and can't sleep. Sorry for typing so much. I just wish I could have met someone who would have care to be with me and could have appreciated me more, because no matter what he says, I don't believe him anymore. He chose to leave and I don't want to be like this. I feel so hurt.