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I'm a new member to this forum and thought I'd introduce myself.
I'm married and things aren't good at all at the moment, hence me looking for and finding this site. When I'm sure of what I want to say/ask I will do.
I hope that I will find this forum and the views of it's members helpful and that I can also assist others.
New here.. thought I'd say hello. DH and I have been married for almost 7 years and I'm feeling more and more insignificant as the days go by. I'm not getting much help or support from friends or family. I just feel so alone.
Welcome, rainbowstar. Top post a new thread, go to the forum you would like to post in such as 'General Relationship Discussion' and click on the blue 'New Thread' button near the top left.
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Welcome, Leeann! You will get a better response to your question if you create a new thread. You can go to 'General Relationship Discussion' and click on the 'New Thread' button.
I think it is great you started this forum for people who need advice on their marriage. Sometimes it can be hard to open up to a counselor or even a friend about problems that can sometimes be very personal. I feel your forums can be helpful in that you can get some truthful third party advice without leaving your home. Kudos to you Chris and I am glad I found this site! I think thats Great to have a place to discuss many issues and hear multiple takes on the situation. I have always had a pretty high drama Life and tend to always journal to myself so the idea of sharing outloud seems very comforting. glad to have found this place' hope all is well with all!
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ok im really new to these kinds of things this is the first time i have ever did this but i need help iv been married for 8 yrs but we have been together for 12 yrs and we have 4 kids.. now about a 2yrs ago we split up and we had got back together for only 6 months any way we split again and then about a 1yr n a 1/2 ago we got back together and have been together since and had our 4th child who is only 4 mths old well i told him that we needed to talk about the things that we did for us to move forward see we have a lot of ppl in our lives that try to impact us and tell things on us so that we fight, well anyway i opened up and told him everything that i had did and he said that he did nothing AT all now this far down the road im told that he was in a relationship that he did not tell me about and he did admit to this after they had told me and he for the time that we have been back together has done nothing but pick on me about what i did and joke about it now all i want to do is move forward in our lives together with our kids but now i cant tell when hes lying or telling me the truth any more i need help what do i do to get passed all of this????
heidismith, you really should copy and paste your post into a "New Thread" in the general relationship discussion area. You will get a lot more replies that way.
Hello all, I just came across this website and it seems to be just what I was looking for. My husband and I have had a lot of trouble, struggles, issues, etc., but it is good to know we are not alone. Hopefully I can gain some knowledge, insight and experience from the members of this site.
Hello everyone!
I am fairly new to the community. I joined in hopes of finding answers to assist me with issues within my own marriage. Yes, I have mostly lurked up till now. I am not sure reading posts have helped me at all, but they have made me feel a little less alone.
I have a wonderful H, we have been married 20+ years. I use to consider him not only the love of my life but my best friend. He is still the love of my life and I can not imagine my life without him.
I think through those years we have each developed our own resentments & regrets. These become barriers many times in us being able to communicate. Some of the barriers I admit are mostly my fault for ways I have acted and things I have done.
I will admit in the past I have had PA. He did have an EA and a question always remains on my part as to whether that was all. He has forgiven me and I have forgiven him. However, these things still remain in our minds - thus, causing barriers in communicating.
We have dealt with a few issues with our son (things we really are unable to talk about together)- which as much as it would be nice to talk to someone about that issue I just can't put that out here for all to see.
We are also currently dealing with "empty nest". I feel it bothers me more than him. I guess I had fantasies of how that would be and at times become dissappointed to find it is not all I had dreamed.
I think we are just going through so many changes it is just difficult.
Mainly, I just wanted to introduce my self to the community here.
Hi, my story is so long. I met my husband chating 4 years ago, we got married almost a year ago. He is from USA and I'm from Costa Rica. He has been living here with me until recently that he left for a couple months to visit his 2 kids from previous marriage and dad. He is supposed to come back this Friday. Yesterday he said he will come and will leave again because his dad has a health condition and since his son is living with his dad, he doesn't want to leave him alone. Fine I understand that but he works from home and now also says he will look for a real job with a better pay. (The job he currently has allows him to work in CR since its from home and he doesn't have papers but pay is good for CR standars not USA). So I've been upset thinking he is going to abandon me here. Today he said he isn't even coming back this Friday because he already got a job and will continue doing part time on the one he currently has for same pay. He asks if I'm happy for him, he says we will be economically better than ever since I also got a new job here but of course I'm not happy, not the right way to do things, he didn't even ask me. How can I believe when he says he misses me and loves me when he couldn't even make his first day a week after to be able to come here at least and see me after those 2 months we have been appart since we got married. I feel I hate him for doing that to me. I don't have papers and don't want and won't be there illegal. I just cry and cry and I talk to him with so much anger. I haven't tell him I love hin in the last 3 days, I don't feel it anymore, whatever was there, he managed to kill it. Even if he comes this Friday I won't be happy, I'm hurt his dad and son won over the new wife. I deserve so much better, I was a good person, ignored all the signs I got to not marry him (first time he missed his flight to come here and we couldn't get married, second time lawyer had a problem with computer and couldnt marry us on the day we had planned it). It's 4am in the morning here, I haven't sleep, my eyes are all swallow and red and I just keep crying and can't sleep. Sorry for typing so much. I just wish I could have met someone who would have care to be with me and could have appreciated me more, because no matter what he says, I don't believe him anymore. He chose to leave and I don't want to be like this. I feel so hurt.
epas3012, you will get a better response to your post if you copy/paste it into a new thread (go to the 'general relationship discussion' and click on 'new thread')
I am glad to be in this community. I hope I should be able to contribute my quota (as a writer on marriage issues) to help save ailing marriages.
I am also here to learn from others, because no man is an island of knowledge.
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