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post #91 of 215 (permalink) Old 11-18-2009, 04:26 PM
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Count me as a "browsed for a while, time to sign up" guy. I'm writing an excessively long and detailed account of my story, since a proper introduction is needed! I'm at least as screwed up as everyone else here, so I'll fit right in....

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I'm new here. I am a 30 year old woman, lived with my husband for almost 13 years. Been married for 7 years. We have a WONDERFUL little boy named Conner. He is the light of my life. My marriage is in trouble and it used to really bring me down, but since my son came along I have no reason to feel down. I still have my moments where it is harder to pull myself out a slump - but overall I try to be positive and thankful for what I do have.

I am the sole provider for my family. Not just financially, but in every way. I get very little help from hubby, he does watch our son while I am at work which is wonderful - but that is all that he does. I am to blame for a lot of this mess. I have allowed him to be this way. I was 17 years old when we met and I just had no idea about life or relationships. I came from a family where mom and dad have been married for 35 years. None of my dad's 11 brothers and sisters (Catholic Family) have been divorced. I grew up in a small town and I just didn't have any idea what "real life" was all about.

I still don't have much of a clue about life - but I am learning as I go. I know that being a mommy is the most rewarding job I could ever have. And, if my relationship were better with hubby I would have loved to have had more kids. But, I am blessed to have my little man, Conner and I appreciate him so much.

I am here for advice mainly. I think I can learn from other's posts and hopefully I can repair my lousy relationship. We'll see.....
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hi I'm leah like everyone else here im just trying to find a place I can get advice on how to make my marriage better and last forever. Thanks for the support! ~leah
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I am happy that I was able to find this site. It is wonderful in seeing that I am not alone and that my situation is not a unique one. We all have a common bond and it is wonderful that we can all offer up words of advice and wisdom.

Thanks for putting this site out there. It's a great place to vent, and meet others.
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I have just joined this site I have a scenario that is causing me a little confusion. I was hoping someone might be able to give me a better perspective. I would appreciate anyones thoughts on the matter.

My boyfriend proposed to me while in bali recently, while there were a few really good romantic opportunities, instead he chose to propose in bed just before I fell asleep. (of course I said yes he is the man of my dreams and we had our first child 6 month ago). What stumped me is that he did not bring it up for the rest of the two days we were in bali. I wasnt sure if he meant it or forgotten. There was no ring you see, so when we got back to Perth I asked if he remembered what he said and he replied "of course". I asked if he meant it and he replied that he sure did and our engagement party is in three weeks.

Added to this is that I have had to put in all the effort to find my ring. I dont know if it is because he is busy working and i am just at home with the baby and it is easier for me but again I am troubled with the lack of effort on his part. There has been no romance with our decision to get married and i cant help but feel a little disappointed...

Am I being over analytical?
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I need a strong opinion regarding pre-marital sex, otherwise known as fornication in the bible. I believe this message to be a black and white issue, however as it applies to two senior's in the late 70's who at this point are not sure of another marriage, how can we jusify this dynamick chemistry between the two of us and still live with our conscience???.
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Hi there. I stumbled upon this site and I am hoping to get and give some advices. Sometimes it takes just another perspective from someone who is not involved into the situation, to help a person see a resolution.
I am divorced with children and now I want to get involved in a relationship. But I seam to have develop a fear of intimacy. Whenever someone gets close, I put on heavy barriers around me. I want them to get through, but my fear and hesitation eventually burns them out. Should I go after him, explain my fears and ask him to keep trying? He was definitely interested, but now he hesitates. Does his hesitation mean that I should go after him or that he is done with trying to get close to me. Will my trying make me look desperate? Will I have internal peace if I just watch him lose interest? Any advice?
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Hello to all,
I am new to this site and I am not real sure of what I am doing by writing a thread. I have a question that I need to ask and really would like some advise on, but I'm not sure exactly where to do that at in this site!!! Can someone please help me so that I may get some help with my issue!

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Glad I found this site because I feel like I'm going insane with my marriage. I'll post it… somewhere!

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I'm new here. I'm not having any marriage troubles, but we can all improve our marriages, right? There's always something to work on. I'm also learning how to be a life coach and am excited to help people in a professional capacity.
Thanks for the great forum.
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post #102 of 215 (permalink) Old 01-22-2010, 01:04 AM
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We've been married for 9 yrs now with 3 beautiful girls. After our second daughter was born things really changed for us.We live way to close to my family who cause a lot of drama. I had sever postpatum depression.I pulled away from him and the kids,all I wanted to do was find a hole to crawl in and stay. Things got to the point where we both met someone online,and when we both found out about it and talked,we both agreed that we needed to work on our marriage. But I don't feel like things have changed at all.We still fight a lot over the kids over money,moving.Anything really.No matter what I say or do it's wrong in his eyes.The place we live in is way to small for our family,the area sucks,the kids are not happy and i'm not happy. When I try to come up with a solution he knocks it down. Always has a reason to make me feel stubid.And sex well lets just say it feels like a job,there's no passion between us anymore. I don't know how to fix this anymore I'm out of answers,I've ask him to go to marriage counseling but he refuses.I'm so tired of fighting,I can't talk to him. I feel so lost.
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My name is Cathi and I've been married 23 years this coming February 17th.

We've been having some troubles, but we are working them out. Why did I sign up here? Well, last week was a very bad week full of anxiety, and I was looking for some guidance. I ran across this forum. I have been browsing and decided to sign up.

Anyway, I need some time before I talk about what happened to us. It is still fresh and I need to get past it to where I can talk about it without crying right now.

But as another poster said, it doesn't hurt to make any improvements.

Thanks you and Cheers!

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post #104 of 215 (permalink) Old 02-08-2010, 01:37 AM
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Hello everyone! I found this forum and joined right away. My common-law marriage of 17 years is like a bucket of mud and I sit day after day, year after year, dreaming of myself being single and free, without the dead weight of someone who tears me down and makes me cry. I will tell more of my story later when it is not so late at night and I am not so sleepy.

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hey guys!
im just new here last night. i'm having crisis in my marriage..and i would like to uplift my moods and the moods of other people that feels the same way. Btw, my marriage is just turning 2 years this april, hoping to fix our marriage before our 2nd anniversary.hehe.
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