hello to all...im having a little trouble in my current relationship. was looking on line and found this site. im just trying to find a site that will give me answers or just a place to go if i need it! THANKS
Hi, I joined this site hoping to get some answers to problems I am facing in my 4 years marriage. Hopefully I can put in effective contribution to people's problems too.
My husband says he loves me, but I honestly don't feel like. He does not normally do things that I like but always expects to like what he wants. But when I feeling down & depressed he reasons out that the reason why he can't do things that I like is because of the problems he is having. I get confused after speaking to him.
Today we were having a lovely chat, then he suddenly tells me that one of his bachelor friends coming & if he can stay the night in our house for couple of nights. Ofcourse this would not have been a problem for me if we have a spare room. The problem is we have 2 boys staying in our spare room at the moment, so this friend would have to crash in a open room opposite to where me & my husband sleeps. There is no door between where he would sleep & where we would sleep as its a open space. I got so angry when he suggested that, as my first thought was "He is my husband, should he not be the person protecting me... How can he even suggest this" He thinks I am unreasonable as I will be with my husband all the time when he is around and there is no reason for me to feel odd. I am normally a reserve person, and always appreciated my privacy. Sometimes people, including my husband thinks I am selfish, but that is who am I.
I like to know your thoughts on this. Am I been selfish to think like this, or is it fair that I did not want him to stay over.
I'm new here. I am a 30 year old woman, lived with my husband for almost 13 years. Been married for 7 years. We have a WONDERFUL little boy named Conner. He is the light of my life. My marriage is in trouble and it used to really bring me down, but since my son came along I have no reason to feel down. I still have my moments where it is harder to pull myself out a slump - but overall I try to be positive and thankful for what I do have.
I am the sole provider for my family. Not just financially, but in every way. I get very little help from hubby, he does watch our son while I am at work which is wonderful - but that is all that he does. I am to blame for a lot of this mess. I have allowed him to be this way. I was 17 years old when we met and I just had no idea about life or relationships. I came from a family where mom and dad have been married for 35 years. None of my dad's 11 brothers and sisters (Catholic Family) have been divorced. I grew up in a small town and I just didn't have any idea what "real life" was all about.
I still don't have much of a clue about life - but I am learning as I go. I know that being a mommy is the most rewarding job I could ever have. And, if my relationship were better with hubby I would have loved to have had more kids. But, I am blessed to have my little man, Conner and I appreciate him so much.
I am here for advice mainly. I think I can learn from other's posts and hopefully I can repair my lousy relationship. We'll see.....
Hi, have you tried talking to your hubby about how you feel? The message does not say you have. May be that is the starting point, to sit and talk to him. Ask him what he wants? Does he want this marriage to work? How you feel at the moment?
May be you need some fire in your marriage. Do you go on holidays often? May be you should, just the 2 of you. I am sure coming from a big close knit family your son can be looked after for a week or so, until the 2 of you go away from all the hustle & bustle. If he does not take the initiative in arranging something, may be you should & see how it goes. I have heard alot of couple with similar problems, specially from the man's side. They do come around eventually, but it is hard work. Then again there are people who does not want to change, then you need to think "is it worth living with someone who does not bother to work towards keeping the marriage" "Is this a good example for my son". From the background you come from, I can imagine separation been the last thing. It is easy to separate, but difficult to make things work. But when you do make things work, the reward can be so great. Like the song "Fight for you Love" you should not give up till you fight to make this work.
I myself have issues & problems which I am still looking for answers in my marriage, hence I am no expert. But this is what I feel about your situation.
I wish you all the best, and hope you will find the happiness you desire soon.
I'm Rey, based in sunny South Africa (pls dont mention the soccer cos i really dont support the sport) Been married for almost 3 years & now slowly but surely the cracks are becoming more & more evident...
Hello everyone ..I came across this wonderful forum..and wouldn't mind becoming more familar with it..I am depressed and need some moral support and just be here to learn more as I stay on here ..I see I am not alone..
I just joined today and hope that someone has a similar experience to mine and can help get me back on track. I'm a skeptic when it comes to the online world and my post should certainly explain why but thank you for giving people a place to express concern privately.
I'm a new member to this forum and thought I'd introduce myself.
I'm married and things aren't good at all at the moment, hence me looking for and finding this site. When I'm sure of what I want to say/ask I will do.
I hope that I will find this forum and the views of it's members helpful and that I can also assist others.