Shirley

Hi,

When I was first dating my husband and when we got married he had so much patience with my children. My kids (13 & 15) are just normal teenagers, and can try anyone's patience at times. They are good kids, with good hearts, and do well in school. He now says he has "no patience left" for them and if they don't do exactly what he says, exactly when he says, and how he says, he gets very angry. It is at the point where he is saying that he "can't live under the same roof with them anymore". My x-husband lives in a different province (Canada) and would be more then willing to take my children, but I want my children living with me! We have tried family counselling but this has not helped. He keeps butting heads with the kids daily. He often says things like "you aren't capable of that" when the kids want to do something (like my daughter for example baking cookies). I am at my wits end because I don't like the way that he is treating the kids even when they are at fault. How do I deal with this situation???? HELP!!

Beyourownscientist

I think you need to provide more information. How long have you been married, what marriage is this (1st, 2nd), and other details.

Have you talked about parenting expectations?
Have you talked to your husband about the issues he is having with your kids? Have you attempted to validate his perspective and sought to understand what he is feeling?