It's an awful situation. We have a 4 year old son together or I'd leave so fast she'd never know that I was ever there. Counseling isn't working. My wife is mean and cruel. What do?
Does she say why she is miserable when she is there?It's my daughter. My wife has been mean to her off and on for the 5 years we've been married. My daughter doesn't like to be around her (I don't blame her) and now my wife, like a child, has doubled down on her actions. She won't initiate any conversation. Talks down to her and is very harsh. Once we were explaining the importance of dental hygiene and she told my 8 year old at the time she hoped her teeth rotted out. My wife said she is miserable when my daughter is here ?
what does the counselor say? Is your wife truthful with the counselor?. Counseling isn't working.
sometimes kids are hateful to the stepmom on the sly. Is there any way your daughter could be pulling a parent trap and doing things to the stepmom that you don't see? It's common for children of divorce to sabotage relationships because they want their parents back together.Once we were explaining the importance of dental hygiene and she told my 8 year old at the time she hoped her teeth rotted out.
This is terrible parenting technique. A child-like response to child-like behaviour.what does the counselor say? Is your wife truthful with the counselor?
sometimes kids are hateful to the stepmom on the sly. Is there any way your daughter could be pulling a parent trap and doing things to the stepmom that you don't see? It's common for children of divorce to sabotage relationships because they want their parents back together.
how is she with your 4 year old? would you describe her as a good mother in that case? The evil stepmother type tend to overly spoil their own natural children. Does she expect the same standards from both kids?
p.s. when my girls (7 and 3 1/2) refuse to obey and brush their teeth, i too say, "well then i hope your teeth rot out". I don't actually hope their teeth rot out. I hope that my dire warning will motivate them to brush without it being necessary to pin them down and do it for them. I love my kids, and i don't think anyone would describe me as mean to them. Even if they heard me say this.
Is there anything you like about this woman? How is she with the son you have together?More info...my wife is a total volcano. She is on high alert when my daughter is around looking for mistakes. MY DAUGHTER IS VERY RESPECTFUL. It's over the top, if everything isn't perfect, my wife goes to defcon 10 anger level. Including, and mostly directed at me. She has zero tolerance or patience with my daughter. At her moms house, my daughter receives very little discipline then our house is boot camp (think full metal jacket). A 10 year old kid can't handle that. No one likes being around my wife when she is like that, including her sister (who has kids). Her sister has seen it first hand. She lived with us for a bit. She feels for us.
It's almost like my wife has OCD with extreme anger response when things aren't 100% perfect. When does perfect happen with children? Basically never.
No. Not TRY, she is just feeding you BS and not really dealing with her issues.Update: I wrote her a long message telling her everything I feel and that I couldn't take the meanness anymore. She said she will try her best and go see a Dr. She probably is suffering from depression. She's already being kind. I hope it sticks. She knows I will walk otherwise. Thanks to some of you.