08-23-2011, 05:41 PM
Join Date: Aug 2011
| | Very Discouraged/Confused
Ok, so my husband and I are approcahing our 6 year anniversary. We are both in our 20's with no kids yet. We both have great jobs, live in a nice house, and we have alot of friends all various ages.
When we were dating we fell head over heels for each other and so the story goes right? The first year was the worst. It was hard for us both to get adjusted, new jobs, new apt,bills...we fought alot...lol! But once we moved past the first year we began to grow and press through the tough days. We've had alot of amazing times together and I truly believe that we love each other alot! However we are kind of going through some weird "thing" right now and I hate it. Just to bring you up to speed, my husband has been working alot the past 3-4 weeks. He was busting his tail for a promotion and he finally got it! YAY! I am so grateful that he works as hard as he does, and I understand that is one of his ways of showing he loves me. But here's the kicker: i feel like, and I know this will sound awful, but I feel like I am just too good to him sometimes. So much so, that I feel that he has no clue what he has in me. My friends,family,co-workers and church friends are always raving about how great of a person/wife I am. how lucky he is...blah blah! I feel like everyone sees it but him. I don't do things for him to get recognition, I do them because I love him. But its exhausting trying to get his attention. I take care of everything, dinner,house chores,bills, working, you name it. Our main issue right now is sex and communication. I would be up for wild sex every night, but not him. We have had sex once in almost a month! I'm miserable like this! What am I supposed to do...i'm not going to beg him. As far as communicating, he thinks he can just come in and plop down in front of the computer every night and that we should be fine...I want deep, meanigful talks, I want to make out..what happened to us? I've tried booking us for a romantic vacay in FL...it was ok, but it was not the fireworks and reconnecting I had hoped for...he just seemed out of it the whole time. I've also tried backing off from him and this seems to fuel him away from me more. HELP!!!