Originally Posted by lotuslove
This kind of statement comes around in situations like this. Things are never cut and dry like that... especially marriages and where kids are involved. Its a given she and people in these situations are not able (yet) to change their situation. I think offering suggestions is a better approach.
We all have let people give us **** at one time or another. Kind of reminds me of the idea of telling a heroin addict to just put down the pipe (or whatever it is they use).
I know that I am harsh and abrupt. It's the way I do things. Put right out there and don't sugar coat it.
As I told another poster before; "If you want someone to hold your hand and tell you, 'It's alright, Sweetie. None of this is your fault." then this is not the place for you.
I do not set about in my posts to offend, but I do believe that when in these situations, a good jolt of common sense can do some good. It did me when I was having a rough time. One of my best friends was a lot tougher than I am here and it opened my eyes.
AllyM either needed help from her H or she didn't to get the chairs moved.
He whined about it, she moved the chairs alone and he showed up to find out that she didn't really need to bother him.
So why did she do it?
Either she didn't think that she could do it on her own and didn't try before calling or she wanted an excuse to see him.
So yes, I am tough and I can be hard on others. A harsh dose of common sense is warranted at times.