Re: Same Sex Emotional Affair - Is This Possible?
To answer the initial question, sure, it's possible. Now, this is not to say that wour wife can't have friends or whatever. There's absolutely nothing wrong with your wife (or husband) having a ear to vent to.
Not to threadjack, but I'm in a long term relationship. 11+ years. Blah blah blah. My SO has (yet another) EA. Her best friend (at the time) was fanning the flames and encouraging her EA, whilst angling toward... I dunno, something in their own relationship. It started off innocently enough, with minor gripes... but suddenly, my tight-lipped SO was offering up info that was absolutely crossing boundries to her best friend while indulging in an EA. I don't know exactly what her friend was angling for, but my SO was giving all of her positive emotions to a man at work while getting encouragement (and negative reinforcement) from her friend... while her friend was telling her how bad her marriage was and how ours reflected it in so many ways (and was therefore just as bad)... how their "terrible" situations were so similar... it was building a negative charge.
Everything was great for her when talking to her pet scumbag at work... and then she'd talk to her "bestest pal" about how everything between she and I was horrible, and her friend would agree and fuel the flames.
To this day, I don't know exactly what her agenda was- whether it was merely "misery loves company," or "switch your sexual orientation and run with me to the Casbah" or what.
To drag this all around to an actual point, I eventually pointed out that I (indeed, we) couldn't work on our problems if I wasn't the one being told about them. No one is a mind reader.
Eventually, she broke off the friendship. And, after being busted, the EA.
She was absolutely getting her emotional needs (different needs) tended to by two different people that weren't, y'know, me.
Last edited by Unsure in Seattle; 09-07-2011 at 06:44 PM.