09-04-2011, 02:48 PM
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: upstate NY
| | Re: Unhappy with relationship letters -- do they work?
Well, when I was with my first ex boyfriend, he wrote me a letter about how sad he was, how things were going bad, etc. My reaction was that I thought it was cute, I found it confusing, and wasn't really sure if it was serious. It did get us to talk out what our issue was if I remember correctly after I analyzed it.
I wrote my husband a 4 page letter at one point, detailing what hurt, where I was, asking what I should be doing or have done differently etc etc etc. It was met with resentment and anger. I poured my heart into it thinking since any other form of communication got absolutely nowhere that perhaps non emotionally communicating things on paper where he could read it and think about it would help. absolutely wrong. He took it as a letter explaining that I wanted a divorce.
Then again, I had a friend come over and sit down and I wrote out point blank the problems she was having with her spouse, as a list with one cited example that was very simple and plain with no nonsense in it and he kept that list and worked on improving the things she listed.
it's hit or miss.