My husband and I have many issues but we are working on these issues (he has fallen out of love with me due to an EA). We have both decided to try using Mort Fertel's program (I don't know if youve heard of it or any success stories - but upon looking, the reviews looked good. I signed up for his 7 tips for marriage success and we both read the articles and took the assessments and felt the advice was excellent.).
However, upon improving myself, I realize that I have a problem with being insecure and jealous. If H talks to a woman at work, I am extremely jealous. We both have a mutual female friend and he went to hang out with her and her husband the other night, and I instantly thought they were sleeping together. I don't know what came over me but I was texting and calling him constantly! I know deep down he didn't do anything but I am so severely jealous. We spend at least 6 hrs a week together (and are slowly bumping that up) so I don't know why I am so jealous if he goes out with a friend for 2-3 hrs - not only that but the girl's HUSBAND was there, so obviously the meeting wasn't for sex or love interest.
I feel my insecurity and jealousy leads to putting restrictions on him, and therefore, he is unhappy in our relationship. I feel that my jealousy has created a huge issue in our relationship and stopped the trust and openness of our relationship. H says he's afraid to tell me things because of how jealous I am.
I just don't know what to do to get rid of the feelings and be OK again. :scratchhead:
However, upon improving myself, I realize that I have a problem with being insecure and jealous. If H talks to a woman at work, I am extremely jealous. We both have a mutual female friend and he went to hang out with her and her husband the other night, and I instantly thought they were sleeping together. I don't know what came over me but I was texting and calling him constantly! I know deep down he didn't do anything but I am so severely jealous. We spend at least 6 hrs a week together (and are slowly bumping that up) so I don't know why I am so jealous if he goes out with a friend for 2-3 hrs - not only that but the girl's HUSBAND was there, so obviously the meeting wasn't for sex or love interest.
I feel my insecurity and jealousy leads to putting restrictions on him, and therefore, he is unhappy in our relationship. I feel that my jealousy has created a huge issue in our relationship and stopped the trust and openness of our relationship. H says he's afraid to tell me things because of how jealous I am.
I just don't know what to do to get rid of the feelings and be OK again. :scratchhead: