Re: Issues with sleep...
sleep study. I went through time like your wife, tired and sleepy. going to bed before my husband, getting after him and waking up with huge headaches, still dragging my feet through the day. I had gained 30 pounds in around 8 months.
I had sleep study done and it turned out I was not getting any REM sleep . An average person wakes up around 10-15 times at nght (time that you do not remember). In my sleep study I woke up 137 times.
I was supposed to take sleeping pills every night for 10-14 nights straight, then stop. This was supposed to bring my sleep pattern back to normal. And then repeat it every few months, whenever it got screwed again. and of course, improve sleep hygiene. It worked, but later I had hard time taking pills for so long, as it required going to bed earlier.
Right now the way I handle it is I take sleeping pills maybe once or twice a month, when I feel that I am not getting sound sleep again, waking up tired and sleepy. I could do it more, but I do not want to be too reliant on pills. Still, in my case they almost literally saved my life. Once my sleep got fixed, I lost 40 pounds, was excercising, etc.
Not getting good sleep will cause depression, apathy, fatigue, sexlesness. It can be HUGE problem.
"There was another life that I might have had, but I am having this one. - Kazuo Ishiguro